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I think I was avoiding this thread and then forgot about it. I've had deep feelings around this. So much of what has been said, I've felt. When help showed up for the first time, when I was an adult, I wondered why it wasn't there when I was so young and helpless. I definitely felt this for...

Your language use here and throughout your posts seems to suggest more about you than the OP. You seem to have some strong beliefs and perhaps triggers around "young people" So, no young, pre-pubescent child has ever seen atrocities, been raped, experienced a life threatening attack? Also...

If it didn't happen, there was a reason your brain created the stories. And yes, that's awful, but if it did happen that's awful. The awfulness is something you have already been living with and have gained a lot of coping skills. I don't want to say it doesn't matter, because of course it does...

It sounds like you have a lot of strong opinions about it. And you want us to make a judgement on her choices, when we don't know her story. It's easy to black/white think. That happens to everyone but is more common with PTSD (when hitting triggers) and ADHD. I'm wondering if you are able to...

You are getting a lot of advice here and are being brave and open to new ideas and change. It doesn't have to happen immediately. You can build up to it. I am not tracking well, so sorry if I have missed it. Have you tried to find out what resources are in your area? I imagine that's hard in a...

Resurfacing of feelings and symptoms is normal. I think that happens even to "normal" people. Like, someone can have grief resurface long after a loss because of new stresses and situations. What can change, when it happens is how you deal with it. You can gain better coping skills and the...

ok, you did some things you regret. However, you did not harm anyone and in fact tried to stop more harm from happening by reporting the guy. I want to repeat, you did not harm anyone. You are 19 and that may feel old to you, but you are very much in the stage of figuring out life. You can...

Yes, living like that would be tough. I am glad you are reaching out to get more support. I think it's going to be very important in your situation.

Open relationships can be very hard to maintain. A key in making them work is open communication. You need to be able to talk with about your feelings and what boundaries you want to have in place. And communicating isn't a one time thing, it's a continuous process. Is that something you can do...

You have experienced so much pain and trauma. I am sorry. Talking about it here is a good first step. Healing is hard but it can happen. This is a good place to get some support. Not every one will say things that help (we all have different ways of healing), but there are some very wise...

Full confession, I haven't read the full thread. My bandwidth is a bit limited. I can definitely say me too though. It's weird, Last night I got together with this older couple who seem to have adopted me. I still don't understand why they think I'm so great, but it's so nice. And they seem...

This is a good first step. My husband wishes I would watch movies more and we definitely have a different taste in movies. That's ok, there's lots of other areas where our tastes overlap more. I do, at times, watch movies to make him happy. I usually end up enjoying it when I do. I guess my...

I agree the respect is a minimum for a relationship. I am curious what you mean by effort?

Hi, welcome to the forums. I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. Describing it as a collage, really describes it well. My memory/sense of time is still not great, so I can't say how long ago I was diagnosed with DID and started unraveling all that stuff. Over all things have gotten a lot...

It's hard, because stress can trigger PTSD symptoms. The cycle is exhausting, but it can change over time. I know that thought can be hard to hold on to during the difficult times.

I've been hesitant to post in this thread because I'm feeling weirdly defensive. Please understand, this thread is great and I hope it is helping people. I will own the defensiveness as a product of my experience, not from anything in this thread. My defensiveness, I think, mostly comes from...

I also haven't cut for years but this morning was wishing I could. Is it peace you are wanting to find through cutting? Anything else? I am sorry things are so hard for you. For me, it helps to remember I quit for a reason.

I like it, especially the filtering. I'm not around enough for my thoughts to matter much, but would there be a way to add a filter of comment count? Sometimes I try to find the posts with the fewest comments and reply there, so they get some feedback/support

I've been in and around a lot of different kind of relationships, including kink, queer and polyamorous. One of the best things I've learned is what you just said. The important thing is that consent is freely given. The hard thing, with PTSD is that sometimes we give consent because of...

You've gotten a lot of good answers, I'm curious what you think about those answers. And what lead you to have the questions.

Physical and other types of abuse are often combined. Sadly, I think you will find many people here that share that experience. You will also find plenty of older folks here. This is a good group and you can often learn a lot. It's important to remember that mixed in with stories and advice that...

I know this manipulation well. The manipulator thinks if they aren't having fun, no one else should. And they will do whatever they can to make you fell bad about it. Are you saying it's hard to forgive? If so, that's ok. I know this well. It takes a lot of time and effort to change this...

Unless there's some reason asking would cause additional problems, there's nothing wrong with asking. It does sound a bit like your brain is creating barriers for yourself to prevent the move from happening. Obviously, I don't know if this is true and it sounds like you are having a hard time...

I think fantasizing is fairly common. Even "normal" people can engage in fantasizing. The key question is does it cause you any harm. If it's inhibiting your functioning or healing in some way, then it's a problem. If it's bothering you, you can also try to find ways to turn it into a...

Ok, it sounds like you understand the cycle. What can help you shift out of it?