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I love guns, I love cleaning them, shooting target practice, and even hunting. I'm an army brat, turned navy vet, gun grease is in my blood. That being said I do not currently own a gun and I don't plan on owning on anytime soon for several reasons. 1. I have small children in the house and...

@The Albatross, his point was to help me see how I went from that to an abusive marriage without realizing that it was abuse. It was more for his curiosity I think, but I found it helpful. I grew up in that environment (along with patriarchal and religious abuse) so when I marred and my husband...

Going through therapy has caused me to see more and more that my childhood was not 'happy and normal' whatever that means but was in fact riddled with abuse. Growing up we moved around a lot, but we seemed to always live in remote places. Small towns, farms, no close neighbors. Anyway I have...

My moment of freedom was the first morning in my new house. I had left my abuser 9 months earlier but I had been living with my parents and therefore, living with my abusive mother (and realizing for the first time how abusive she really was during my childhood) but I was able to save up and get...

Yes! I have three pre-trauma friends who I lost touch with when my abuser isolated me but when I left him I was able to re-connect with them. They are the ones I trust the most even though I only get to see one of them regularly (the other two are coming for a week in the summer and I can't wait...

I have three children and am their soul provider so I don't have the option to totally isolate for more then a couple of hours unless I plan it out. When I'm vary stressed, to the point of almost braking I have a friend who will take the kids for 24hrs and I'll hide away. It has saved my life...

I have a person like that in my life. He gives great, practical advice but has no clue what it's like to have PTSD... He's a good friend and I like hanging out with him I've just learned to filter what I say to him. I only give him surface level emotions and don't let him get past my outer...

@shimmerz I get the dissociation thing too. One thing that is big for me is loving touch. My abusers all withheld touch in order to "punishing" me (only good girls get hugs, kisses, and cuddles. Bad girls get isolated.), so it's vary important to me that my partner hold me and kiss me a lot when...

^ exactly what @Solara said!

I do this! It's a trust/ insecurity issue. My partner just sweetly tells me "You're doing the crazy brain thing again, silly." and then gives me a hug or a kiss on the forehead. (sorry if 'crazy' is a trigger for anyone, it really doesn't bother me I know what he means by it) and that tells me...

I am so glad he's getting the help he need!! No matter what happens to your marriage you will always love and care about him and of course you are happy and relived that he's taking the first steps towards getting better. I've been separated and divorced from my ex for two years but if I heard...

I'm sorry do you have a doctorate in Psychology? and have you spend several hours with her husband in therapy in order to diagnose him with something as serious as Narcissism? Because if you don't then throwing around words like that is irresponsible and dangerous. Also Narcissism is in fact a...

I've never had an issue, but I only smoke medical grade marijuana. I would recommend flushing your system with lots of water and not using anything like that again, when you get it off the street you never know what it could be laced with and hash is so much stronger then weed to start with. I...

The episode of Twilight Zone on your profile pic is my favorite!! Welcome!

As other have said Great job! I can't say I would do the same if I ever saw my abuser again... I know where to dump a body though, and no one would ever go looking for his worthless body.

My pets are the same way (a cat and two dogs). They really are the best possible supporters :)

This sucks because my biggest fear with my partner is that this is true! And to have his network actually saying it must really hurt. I'm sure it isn't true though, I'm sure you bring a lot to the relationship. I like what @still_i_rise said about communicating with him and seeing where you can...

I'm sure some of the male sufferers will be able to assure you better then I can but as a sufferer I can tell you flat out that cheating is NOT a symptom of PTSD. You have done nothing to deserve this nor is this an aspect of his illness. My suggestion would be to do whatever you thing you would...

My pet names for my partner are "Scruffy" (short for Scruffy looking nerfherder) and "Stupid Face"

I'm glad to hear he's getting much needed help. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

@Kaia thanks for the empathy. If you can, you should watch the video that Anarchy posted above. I found it resonated with my experience with meditation almost exactly.

@Anarchy I also really like what he says about the 'fireworks' vs 'mortars'! Such a great way to look at emotional flashbacks and negative thoughts!

@Anarchy I found it on YouTube and was coming back to tell you I found it vary helpful when I saw you posted a link too :woot: I didn't see it before. Anyway what he says makes a lot of since. I think I'll try his 'supper white belt' way to start and see if that helps. Thanks.

Thank you all for responding. I'm in between therapist right now, while looking for a new therapist and thought I would try meditation. I've been using my grounding technique to help me when I have issues I'm just kind of shocked at how much the episodes increased when I started to meditate. I...

First off your grammar was good so no worries there ;) Second, I'd say you are indeed playing with fire, the thought of EMDR with a T scares the living daylights out of me let alone with a YouTube video! I'm glad you have gotten relief with the video, but at what risk? The mind is so...