Relationship He's Going In The Hospital Tomorrow

[Glara]

So even though I deactivated FB, I get status updates. He posted one today about going on vacation, but I couldn't read the whole thing. Of course I got upset, his post sounded so happy, so I texted him. I told him I'm glad he's feeling better, now I don't have to worry about him like I've done since Oct, and have a nice vacation. He answered back that it's not a vacation but a 6 week medical leave and he's going in to the hospital. He said his friends don't need to know that, of course I agree. I admit, I'm hurt that he didn't tell me. I don't know if he planned to, or was just going to drop off the face of the earth with no word. But I am EXTREMELY happy he's getting help. I feel like I should have called 911 when he first told me what he almost did. I even discussed it with him and told him that he'd likely be hospitalized. He told me he'd talk to his therapist. I'm so glad they came to this decision.

I don't really know what they do as treatment, I'd be interested if someone would share their experience. I don't really know how long he'll be in, I thought it was usually 2 weeks, but he's taking a whole 6 which I think he needs desperately. He usually works like crazy, gets called in all crazy hours. He could use the rest. I just hope the treatment helps. He is terrified of meds, afraid they'll make his symptoms worse.

Not sure what else I want to say. My head is spinning in all different directions. I just got home from a 12 hour work day. I'm relieved that he'll be safe for now and he's getting help, I'm hurt that he didn't tell me, but I'm happy that he did tell me when I asked. I dont know if he'll be able to contact me. I will be wondering the whole time how he's doing. I can't think straight.

 

[Deleted member 28986]

I'm interested to hear what inpatient PTSD treatment entails, too. I'm a sufferer (not a supporter), but my only inpatient experience was a four-day period in the hospital, and their only goal was to hold me until I convinced them I wouldn't kill myself. :rolleyes:

You're right—you can rest easy knowing that he won't be hurt. Deep breath of relief.

In my experience, I was able to make phone calls, have visitors, and even use my cell phone. I don't think they'll cut him off completely, but if they do I'm sure they'll say there's some therapeutic reason for it.

I'd encourage you not to take it personally that he didn't proactively tell you. I'm glad he was honest with you when you asked. Sometimes the burden weighs down so heavily, and the effort required to tell another is far too great. When we take off our happy-face mask and talk about what's really happening, we also have to pay attention to and FEEL what's really happening, and I know I will go to great lengths to avoid those horrible feelings. Even if you are the most important person in the world to him, please don't take it personally.

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It's been so tough for me lately I would LOVE to experience a 6-week inpatient treatment. I would love 'round-the-clock therapy to help me improve, even though improvements would probably not be as big as I'd hope. I think most people would think being "locked up" for weeks is horrible, but I'm in such a state that I would view it as a luxury to be enjoyed. I wouldn't know where to find such an inpatient program, let alone pay for it right now, but if you have updates later on we'd love to hear 'em.

I hope you find peace in this trying time.

 

[Glara]

I'm not sure that he'll be in the hospital the whole 6 weeks. I've known other people to be in for 2 weeks when they are suicidal, depending on insurance. Even 4 days inpatient is better than nothing. If he tells me anything about what they are doing for him I'll post it here. Thanks for the support.

 

[Momofthree]

I'm glad to hear he's getting much needed help. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think he was very honest with you. Must be very scary for him.

And to your credit, you were very kind & totally non-judgmental & supportive in your response. He is very lucky.

Hugs & prayers for you both.

 

[Sweetpea76]

@Glara, I am so glad he is getting the help he needs. My sufferer was at an inpatient treatment center for a period of time (it was before we met, so I'm not sure how long... I think it was at least 3 months though). He said it was the best thing he ever did.

I know he was able to have day passes, visitors, and his phone after a certain point. I don't know if that is standard or not.

 

[Glara]

@Sweetpea76 he didn't say how long he'd be there, or give me any details really. I didn't ask. I had discussed it with him earlier, he said he'd talk about it with his T. I'm guessing that's how the arrangements were made. I hope to hear from him at some point, but at least I know he's safe for the moment. He's very anti-med. I hope in there they can get him on the right meds and he'll feel better. I don't know how long he'll be in there or where he is. I just hope it helps.