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Hi, I'm a person of faith & believe in the influences of good & evil. And i agree that getting on top of your symptoms will help to sort out what is what. Night terrors have effected me throughout the day, regardless of whether i had any real memory of them or not. And i remeber the first...

Yes ..absolutely.

Yes ..there are definately stages. Even though you do kinda move through them, they aren't really in a straight line. You kind of bounce back & forth & around between them. But as you do the work, you do slowly progress through them. It's like you're always working on all the stages, all of...

Hi @Moniq If you are searching, please explain further. However, it seems you may have missed the point. No one gets to go back. No one gets to turn the clock back. And that goes for everyone. I know you know this, but please bear with me while i try & articulate what i mean. Perfectly...

Hi Kaylove ..yes the old you is still there. Although it will be a different version. As the quote says, "No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man." - Heraclitus By different, remember that any new experience will change you. In fact...

Probably a bit of both. The more you deal with the guilt, shame, fear of repercussions, & the rest that comes up ..the more able to implement healthy boundaries & do it in a healthy way (i was pretty rough in the beginning ?). And the more you implement healthy boundaries & do it in a healthy...

Hi @Tinyflame ..because i didn't believe i deserved it, i would defend my requests & explained my no's. By doing so i was implementing very weak boundaries, if any at all. Such as, instead of saying sorry no, i'm not able to help as i need more notice. I would put my needs aside & what i...

my responses to them & maybe my availabilty as well, me not defending or explaining myself, etc.

I didn't feel as though i deserved it either. And i may be stating the obvious, but it took me a long time to realise that establishing & maintaining boundaries actually had little do with what others were or weren't doing. It was huge for me, empowering to, coming to terms with it being more...

Hi, i agree with Friday's yes & no. It's good that you are getting on top of your symptoms, regardless of the degree. I found then i was more able to do the work on the root stuff. Which in turn reduced symptoms that then enabled to me to do more root work or go deeper, & so on & so on. I...

Hi, i think your doing really well. On some level knowing that what you're feeling may not match what's happening ..& trusting it enough to ask the questions ..trusting yourself. I think is huge, especially given the contradictions that is PTSD, eg. your feelings being absolutely valid & yet...

Hi ..it's definately a thing. From what i can gather it is mostly a personality trait. I am aware of some who also experience similiar who have had great lives, come from healthy, loving & supportive families where there is no dysfunction & never experienced any real trauma in their lives at...

Thanks @Tinyflame ..you too. ? What you're saying makes perfect sense. I guess I was more referring to dealing with PTSD (eg. getting the memories processed correctly & learning what I needed to change or how to see things differently in how I look at & interact with the world now, etc.)...

No worries @Tinyflame. I hope you're ok & I really appreciate you letting me know where you are at. If i can help in anyway ..just say the word. Take care & i look forward to hearing from you, if it suits. ??

Hi Tinyflame ..i don't talk about my trauma(s), period. At best i had a generalised one liner that i would tell a therapist so that they could understand where i was coming from & what i was dealing with. But never any detail or personal in anyway. And it wasn't because of denial or not...

Hi ..for me, it relied on doing the prep work & on a practical level the 2 things that helped the most (in the moment) were relaxation & being my own detective (& probably exposure therapy too & most importantly). At the end of the day though (as i'm sure you're aware), dealing with the...

Thought i might just add, in case of interest. Apparently the 5th answer is the significance. I've been told that research shows that it is our 5th answer where we connect with our real truth. For example ..List the 5 things you most want to achieve in the next 6 months ..or are the most...

For me it was a bit of a combination of Muttly's & IAHC's. Sort of a script i would go through. Something like ..firstly reassuring myself that it is now, Sunday, this 20th day of October in 2019 & not back when 'whatever' (the trauma) was happening & that i know this to be true because i can...

Just thought i'd clarify too that the therapist i was talking about was referring to scans done during research, as at the time it was an emergent therapy & me being scanned was at no time mentioned in any way. I would also like to add that, given the importance of research (& rightfully so)...

Not sure if this is the same thing or not, but may play into it. I remember talking with an expert in his field (he travelled globally as a reputable trainer for therapists) & him showing me some brain scans of people who had experienced serious trauma (the PTSD kind), when they were asked to...

I don't know if this is of any help at all given i have no clue in this area, but thought i'd share something that helps me. I've always struggled with the concept of a 'self', let alone my own. Today there is some kind of sense or resemblance of something there that is actually real & solid &...

Hi, I found it helpful to understand that you need an element of truth in order to deceive. You cannot cause deception without it. If he had of come out & just said ' it's your fault i raped this child', then no matter how much you wanted to believe him, in the end it would've been too hard...

Hi @Sandstone ..I hear your frustration & see the words & phrases you use & see similar parallels to my own journey & honestly, can't help but be excited for you. To me it has all the hallmarks of an impending breakthrough. They say that when the pain of staying the same is greater than the...

Hi..i found it helpful to learn to discern between 'i have done a bad thing' vs 'i am a bad thing' (for doing it..or whatever. I also found differentiating when i was taking on other people's shame helpful..eg. i have nothing to be ashamed because of what has happened to me. It is there shame...

Hi Eve..what is you want to know? Eve..i kinda thought i was..i also thought that some of the other posts people did, did a good job of that too. You might have to help me out a bit here..can you be more specific? Thanks for that