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I'm sorry you've been struggling with getting out of bed and moving through each day. I definitely know how that feels and how difficult it is. I've been feeling like that lately, for sure, and COVID stress has kicked my butt for months (I'm in the US). I've started listening to music more...

I have certainly struggled with ( and continue to struggle with) comparing my trauma situations to others and believing that whatever I have gone through just "isn't as bad as [insert here]" I kind of identify with both sides of the life trauma coin, though. I've been through many different...

@Eleanor Thank you for what you said, it was all very eye-opening for me (and I hope others as well!). I've never heard that about discipline and developmental trauma before. Honestly, I'm very new to the idea of developmental trauma itself, so lots of learning goin on round my way, lol...

Good on you for going! I think our inner strength shines through when we can push to seek help even though everything in us is screaming to stay home. You are rejecting suffering, and you are actively choosing to confront what's troubling you rather than try to run from it. Great job!! :tup:

Volunteering really helps me feel more relaxed. I've helped out at churches, a food pantry and animal shelters (including at a vet clinic connected to one of the shelter groups). @sun seeker, you said you lived in a rural area? If there are any ranches/farms with animals nearby, could you ask...

I definitely clench my teeth (usually while I'm sleeping at night-I wake up with achy teeth :/ ) I'll fidgit, feel generally restless and not at ease, and I'll feel a frustrated/angry/sad all at once. It's kinda hard to describe. I didn't know other people felt this too! I know I'm over-stressed...

I still haven't yet, lol, and I've been seeing my "T" regularly for 3 years! It's not that easy for some of us. In my case, I have residual beliefs from growing up with my parents, especially my mom. I learned authority figures, who I classify my T as, will not give me what I need if I don't...

I'm so glad it helped! Basically, I'm still figuring that one out myself, lol. But, I do think the others were onto something regarding taking on the shame of abusers. We can substitute 'abusers' for anything that feels appropriate, but it's as if shame is a cloud, and, once someone creates...

Such an interesting thread, with varying viewpoints. @Valentino I also appreciate your quotes and assertions. I'll have to check Bradshaw out. I actually understood what he was saying, and I appreciate the direct, scientific perspective. Brene Brown just isn't doin it for me, lol...

I have a male therapist, and I'm female. I love my T! He's great! We've been working together for going on 3 straight years, now. I don't want you to think that sorta trust develops overnight! It's taken a lot of time, effort, and patience for us to reach the connection level we're on. It...

@Valentino I just read your post after posting mine. Thank you for finding the excerpt that so brilliantly supported my point! I could not for the LIFE of me figure out what was missing from Brown's assertions, and yes! there it is! Social context! Inclusivity! Recognition of humanity's...

You're very welcome, it's an interesting thread! It's kinda half-and-half. I have trouble opening up to him about certain topics in therapy, and the shame surrounding the topics also prevent me from discussing these issues (and others that make me uncomfortable) with my loved ones and any one...

Aww man, so bogus, so unfair of this Dr (I absolutely refuse to say "professional"). It's all a matter of personal opinion, remember that. Just because she's supposed to be a bigshot know-it-all "expert" in her field, it does not mean that she's had a ton of varied experiences with different...

@fly away home I'm sorry she broke that professional barrier with you (and made you feel like :poop: in the process) Shouldn't have happened. Really. If it keeps bothering you, though, you may want to try to bring it up at a pace that works for you :) I haven't had any negative...

@Philippa Well, yes, all humans, and especially those dealing with traumatic histories, are technically vulnerable. What I think @The Albatross was getting at was about us actually displaying that vulnerability. The whole point (and innate, ongoing challenge) of therapy is for the...

Wow, Hashi. What a post! I'm really glad you reached out to the community regarding this very difficult & convoluted topic. @ill, the last two paragraphs of your post made me cry! I totally relate to that! I've been in pretty rigorous therapy for the past 2 1/2 years. I've been diagnosed...

Hi Reds, I'm sorry if I'm dragging this out, but I am hoping that you've found some resolution to the problem you posted about here. :sorry: I'm also sorry that you are having so much trouble trusting your current therapist, particularly due to your past experience with the one who hurt you...

Hi Marguerite, I'm sorry you've been struggling with sharing during therapy :( I think I understand where you're coming from, though. I, too, become very anxious before seeing my T. Well, said! This is me as well. My heart will literally be racing while I'm sitting in the damn waiting...

When I get really scared and nervous while talking with my T, I start acting childlike. I start to have trouble finding appropriate words to describe my feelings. Physically, I wring my hands or play with my bracelet, and I start to kinda hunch over or slouch. I look away from him while I'm...

Rissy215, I'm sorry you've been feeling so scared and anxious lately. Sharing your experiences must have been very difficult for you! Whenever I anticipate sharing something with my therapist, I get super scared and worried. I get so nervous and wonder if I'll tell him after all. I've...

I personally don't see a problem with getting a T a gift, all things considered. I think it heavily depends on you, your T, the relationship you have, their "rules" about this sort of thing, your comfort level, and your reason/s for giving a gift in the first place. My T has been amazing, and...

Hi Hashi, I'm not sure if you're still looking for advice, but I wanted to say I'm sorry about what has happened to you :( I've been struggling with my Depression recently, too, and I understand about how hard and confusing it can be to know what's really going on inside your head. The...

Hi Shirt37, I, too, have Depression, and I've definitely experienced my share of intense, prolonged anger at, seemingly, nothing at all. Though I seem to be more calm now, a year ago, the slightest thing could set me off. Like some of the others were saying, I learned (later, through therapy)...

Hi, crazy8 :) Your topic is such a good one! I'm glad members of the community have responded so honestly and eloquently. I agree with what has been said, definitely, and I hope those posts and this one can be of help to you :) In response to your 2nd question, I don't have complex PTSD...

Thanks so much for your replies, everyone. It truly means a lot to me :) Wow, well said, Abstract. I completely agree with your method of handling these stressors. I'm glad you have been able to take it easier on yourself, even if it did take some work! I'm keeping this in mind during my...