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Thank you all. I have been doing my best to be detached. I know now isn't the best to grieve over the loss, but it is so hard to set it aside. Fortunately, the current method he's using to manage is to seek sympathy and praise. Both from his social circles and from me. In spite of living in the...

This post and the responses have been really helpful to me, being in a slightly similar situation. Many have told me to kick my husband out or leave the house with my kids, but I am trying my best to get out of this with the best financial solution possible and I also really don't want to rely...

Yes, it will help, the sooner the better! And if you can find a therapist that has dealt with PTSD so much the better for you. Definitely a good resource to take advantage of whether you "need" it or not. You may find that just having that resource to go to if you start to feel stressed or have...

my husband has been taking melatonin for a while now, it helps dramatically, with less side effects than prescriptions. I don't know if that might be what you meant by sleep tablets, as there are so many kinds, but if it's not something he's tried it might be worth looking into

Hi guys, For anyone that hasn't seen some of my most recent posts, I am married to a sufferer who has mistreated me and pushed to the point that he started seeing me as abusive and spiteful (I have been very angry with the behaviors and the excuse that it's what he needs to feel like a real...

Yeah, it has. I'm in therapy now fighting for my sanity. I don't know what too do in the situation, but at least I know not to stay with him now.

Thanks, that makes me feel way less crazy and helps me me feel ready to handle things

well that's just a jerk move then :/

thanks, I agree and I am starting to understand the degree to which my marriage is broken and I'm just reeling, I guess

oh goodness. I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm sorry also for the apparent lack of sympathy for your situation. three years ago, I found my husband sitting on the floor in our bedroom with a knife on the floor in front of him. He told me he had been having an affair and gotten the...

You are not abandoning him and you are under no obligation to be his caretaker. As someone who has put herself in that position out of love and obligation, I highly recommend (and give you the permission you seem to be asking for) that you let this relationship go. I am not judging, and am not...

Good for you. I am currently in the process of splitting from mine, basically for the same, but also other issues. I also experience panic attacks from the situation and from the anxiety my husband has been causing me over the years. I just resumed therapy and made sure to find someone with...

my sufferer is being a complete jerk to me and I don't think it can be reasonably attributed to his illness, but I really have no one to talk to about it and I need help figuring this out. I stupidly let him move his friend in when she told him about her abusive boyfriend. They have both quit...

I am a bit dazed and in shock, but in desperate need of advice so I'm trying to be as clear a possible. I am a supporter. I also struggle with depression and anxiety. My husband, PTSD sufferer, cheated on me a few years back. We reconciled, but I have had a hard time holding him to boundaries...

clove88, I sympathize with your situation. I have to say it sounds so similar to my own. About 4 years ago my husband's military career ended abruptly. He was very down and hopeless, and took a long time to make any healthy steps forward. He said many of the same things you are talking about. I...

I'm sorry you are struggling. It can be so hard when you are trying to heal and be a better version of yourself to have to deal with other people's responses to your symptoms. Just keep in mind that they are probably also trying to move past that incident in their way. As a supporter, I often...

oh man, a weekend away sounds fantastic. One of my husbands major symptoms gets in the way of that unfortunately. He has a very hard time with hypervigilance, and doesn't do well even going to familiar places away from the house. And he's been especially vulnerable lately. I will try to think of...

So in all of this craziness, I have really lost sight of enjoying my husband. Sometimes it feels easier to just not be around him honestly. What do you do to keep from letting that feeling of just not dealing with it take hold? How do I like my husband again?

Thank you, and know I wasn't upset by your posts, I just want to be understood. I am confident that I would be able to make it with the support of my family and friends without my husband. That part, fortunately doesn't affect my decision to stay. For now I am willing to give him time to adjust...

I am too messed up tonight to really know if I'm making sense, but here's hoping. My husband did cheat on me. He left me for the better part of a year right after our second child was born. He had a child as a result of that relationship. I have been wishy washy about sticking to what I need for...

I appreciate your perspective so much! It didn't read as trying to understand my boundaries. He too has to agree with a rule to a degree to implement it. I know he doesn't in this case agree with them, but I don't see them as rules or even limitations. They aren't about him in the first place ...

I'm not even sure if I'm clear what I'll do. So far I've been able to express that he doesn't need my permission to make what decision he will, just that I can't be in a marriage in which my partner won't respect my needs. I would end the relationship of he continually crossed those boundaries...

So I made my boundaries about our relationship clear to my husband. Great advice from everyone, btw, thank you. But he still just asked me to think about how I would feel if he went to a concert at a bar with another woman (one of his friends). Seriously?! I feel like he's trying to make me into...

Thank you, I will

FYI, in case there is any confusion, this was my post I just couldn't get it to post properly under my name