Relationship Finding The Love

[awayhome06]

So in all of this craziness, I have really lost sight of enjoying my husband. Sometimes it feels easier to just not be around him honestly.
What do you do to keep from letting that feeling of just not dealing with it take hold?
How do I like my husband again?

 

[AlbusLupa]

I really needed to see this tonight, because I feel exactly the same with my girlfriend. I don't really have any answers right now, beyond letting you know that you're not alone in that feeling. I'm really struggling at the minute, while I love her, my girlfriend has never said it back to me, she feels comfortable being herself with me, which I know shows a great deal of trust, but is too shy to undress around me, and never wants to spend the night together. It does at times feel like there's a block between us, and I'm not sure if it's my mind protecting me by dulling that loving feeling or what, but it does feel like it would be so much easier just to let go and be alone. I'm thinking maybe that is what I need to do, take time for me, if I can look after myself, relax on my own as my mind seems to want, then maybe, it'll be able to reclaim the love somewhat.

 

[Friday]

A neurological trick to get a flood of 'new love' (2-3 years) chemicals, is to encounter someone for whom you hold deep & abiding love (and therefor often nothing / taking for granted / annoyance / etc.) in an unexpected or unfamiliar place. :D Shazaam! Hello.

Now, I'm not a big fan of surprises (understatement :wtf: ) So I'm not particularly keen on the unexpected piece. But unfamiliar? Oh yeah! We can work with that one! In fact, many -if not most- long time spouses do just that, on a regular basis. It's called "vacation" or a weekend away.

 

[awayhome06]

A neurological trick to get a flood of 'new love' (2-3 years) chemicals, is to encounter someone for who...

oh man, a weekend away sounds fantastic.
One of my husbands major symptoms gets in the way of that unfortunately. He has a very hard time with hypervigilance, and doesn't do well even going to familiar places away from the house. And he's been especially vulnerable lately.
I will try to think of something that might work around this though.

Thanks!