awayhome06
Bronze Member
my sufferer is being a complete jerk to me and I don't think it can be reasonably attributed to his illness, but I really have no one to talk to about it and I need help figuring this out.
I stupidly let him move his friend in when she told him about her abusive boyfriend. They have both quit their jobs and spent much of their waking hours together. I have been called controlling and paranoid and borderline abusive for having concerns that their relationship was inappropriate and asking him to be respectful of our marriage by not spending time alone with her or being in each others confidence (they often spoke in hushed tones and stopped conversations when I entered the room, and would leave the house together without telling me or be gone much longer than he said and not say anything, and he paid for taking her alone to movies and dinners and other things). Also of note, I'm six months pregnant and we have two kids already. After having come downstairs to find her on his back giving him a massage and them sitting together on his weight bench in the garage leaning in together, he finally agreed that he needed to make it more clear and obvious that what they had was friendship, but the very next day they left the house together for hours after he told me he (not they) was going to the store.
After a week or so of fighting about this and a mental breakdown on my part and having asked her to no avail to leave my house, we are planning divorce and supposedly she is moving at least into the RV that we have been letting one of my coworker's friends park in the drive. He spent the late evening in the garage working out and woke me up coming in. When I went to check on the noise downstairs, they were sitting with their heads together at the dining table. I heard them say something to the affect of "yep what'd I tell you" "mmhmm" as I was walking down the stairs, and yet they didn't move apart.
This is so bizarre to me I can't even fathom it. It doesn't seem real.
Even for two people having an affair, and waiting on a divorce to happen (though no one has even filed at this point) this seems really foolish and not to mention cruel to me.
Is this somehow an effect of his illness? Is he just out of touch with reality. I can't understand how a person can make these decisions and act like it's normal...
I stupidly let him move his friend in when she told him about her abusive boyfriend. They have both quit their jobs and spent much of their waking hours together. I have been called controlling and paranoid and borderline abusive for having concerns that their relationship was inappropriate and asking him to be respectful of our marriage by not spending time alone with her or being in each others confidence (they often spoke in hushed tones and stopped conversations when I entered the room, and would leave the house together without telling me or be gone much longer than he said and not say anything, and he paid for taking her alone to movies and dinners and other things). Also of note, I'm six months pregnant and we have two kids already. After having come downstairs to find her on his back giving him a massage and them sitting together on his weight bench in the garage leaning in together, he finally agreed that he needed to make it more clear and obvious that what they had was friendship, but the very next day they left the house together for hours after he told me he (not they) was going to the store.
After a week or so of fighting about this and a mental breakdown on my part and having asked her to no avail to leave my house, we are planning divorce and supposedly she is moving at least into the RV that we have been letting one of my coworker's friends park in the drive. He spent the late evening in the garage working out and woke me up coming in. When I went to check on the noise downstairs, they were sitting with their heads together at the dining table. I heard them say something to the affect of "yep what'd I tell you" "mmhmm" as I was walking down the stairs, and yet they didn't move apart.
This is so bizarre to me I can't even fathom it. It doesn't seem real.
Even for two people having an affair, and waiting on a divorce to happen (though no one has even filed at this point) this seems really foolish and not to mention cruel to me.
Is this somehow an effect of his illness? Is he just out of touch with reality. I can't understand how a person can make these decisions and act like it's normal...
