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I may have here or there, but that 'a a good idea. I feel like I may be walking a thin line there with him thinking I need him to tell me how to do things but I think it 's worth a shot. Like discussing how he thinks it should be done with him before I start things, more like asking for his...

@Lemontree The problem is he usually tells me after I do something that I've done it wrong. The flower bed for example I was going to buy topsoil for because he said not to dig down but to just add topsoil to the top. So I was going to go buy some but then he said no he would buy a couple...

@ lemon tree Yes, I find myself always thinking about how he would want things done versus how I think I think I should do it. He'll even set things up so I have to rely in him then complain I always have to rely on him. Grr : )

@catlover26 yes maybe a little because we live together it's a little different. Sometimes I wish we didn't live together because I could have my peace and not worry about what he thinks because I could just leave when he got like that. : )

@catlover26 Yes that is it exactly my philosophy. I can't dwell on the negative just focus my efforts towards getting where I want to go in life. Some things you just can't control. Unfortunately he looks at things very differently. You're right about focusing on yourself as well. I know that's...

No, he is super picky and if things are not done precisely the way he thinks they should be done then you've done it wrong even if he hasn't expressed how he feels it should have been done.

The main struggle my sufferer and I face is that he sees the negativity in everything and can never focus on solutions. I am the opposite. I wanted to sit down and lay out some goals yesterday but all I got back was reasons why he couldn't and complaints about things that had happened in the...

Four months ago my fiancé told me out of the blue he was done...couldn't handle the stress of my ex. I knew it was PTSD causing the stress. We got back together but things have been rocky since. Today I tried setting goals with him for our future but he can never look forward only look at the...

You hit the nail on the head with them not understanding PTSD. It's very difficult to explain to people without them thinking it's some sort of excuse. Glad you're enjoying the 4th...sometimes relationships just aren't textbook and that's just fine. : )

I've been through a roller coaster the last six months with my fiancé (at times) and he won't so anything with my family and barely speaks to his...especially those who know him best. He had ended our relationship several times in the last six months and they knew about it. My guess based on my...

Thank you : ) @Sighs

Just had a horrible night and I need to vent. My vet blew up at me a week ago after I told him my ex husband was taking me back to court and told me I need to get out and that he's done. He owns our house. I told him three years ago I wasn't going to move in with him until we were at least...

It's been a while since I posted...two weeks of things being almost completely back to normal after one solo therapy session my Vet went to. He came home told me about the entire session, we had a great night and another great two weeks. Then I found out I have to go back to court with my ex...

Thanks for the insights @FridayJones. Answer or no answer that put lots of new thoughts/answers in my head.

Hmmm that's interesting @FridayJones. He did very abruptly come out of it. Something I said in response to everything he was doing got to him emotionally and he basically "snapped out of it" one day. So will not isolating potentially stop him or slow him from getting better?

He's seriously tearing me down, everything I do is wrong and I can't win. If things don't get better quickly I need to leave. This is not the person I've known the past three years, either that or he's showing his true colors now. So frustrated and angry. Thanks for the feedback; I hope things...

So about a month ago now my fiancé and started speaking again after a period of six or seven weeks of isolation. He said he wanted to do couples counseling and we went last week(at a vet center) and she recommended he come back alone the following week. The whole thing was basically her trying...

My vet went to counseling for the first time today, well we went together, he's going himself next time. I had no expectations going in. Things couldn't be much worse, if they were we wouldn't be together. But I feel like today was a win . Don 't get me wrong, he sat on the couch and spouted...

Thanks for the replies : )

I do plan to move out and he will then need to show me he wants to change and go to counseling, try to make things better. Then I guess I'll have to see if I trust things will stay better or not. Right now I feel like I'm a kid living at my parents house, that is if my parents were mean and...

A couple months ago my vet who has PTSD suddenly out of the blue decided he was done because of stress (we're engaged and have a son). One day when we were figuring out the split I was being pretty cold with him; kind of cut him off like he'd been doing to me. It was what I needed to do to cope...

Hi Katie, My vet is also a good person but says really mean things to me too. Things used to be normal but got worse over time an now he is mean most of the time, acts like I can't do anything right, and our relationship is pretty much over. My vet won't get help or even admit he needs help. If...

@Sweetpea76 Wow, everything you said there made me feel so much better. Just got in another fight with my vet tonight which again went nowhere. We've been engaged and living together 2 1/2 years and he now doesn't want to get married. I know he loves me, I know he wants to be with me, but he...

I just went through something very same "why can he talk to other people but not me? question. It hurt. He did "snap out of it"...I say that because it was literally like the two months of him ignoring me never existed. Things aren't great but we're together. I also get the less affectionate...

I went through something very similar recently. One day out of the blue he was done because he hated my ex husband. Nothing would change his mind. One day he snapped out of it. Now never even brings up my ex husband. I think he was going through his own issues. I guess every situation is...