Relationship Call It Closure

[Lmm]

It's been a while since I posted...two weeks of things being almost completely back to normal after one solo therapy session my Vet went to. He came home told me about the entire session, we had a great night and another great two weeks. Then I found out I have to go back to court with my ex husband. Honestly we will likely settle outside of court, but I was upset. My ex husband ism vet's number one anger button, but I needed to tell him and only wanted him to be supportive of me emotionally, even if he distanced himself from the whole thing. Well, he basically told me he was done and I need to get out of the house over this. I am, and I'm done. I can't be with someone who treats me like that. But I don't understand the person he's become over the past five months. He's so selfish and full of hate. And while before I knew it was PTSD, this I'm not sure about. I don't know who he is anymore. PTSD related or has my vet just become a selfish uncaring person?

 

[Wastinglight]

Hugs if you need them @Lmm. I'm afraid I don't have any advice to give on whether this could be PTSD or not, but i agree that you shouldn't have to put up with being treated like that.

Your partner's behavior might stem from feeling overwhelmed. I have never experienced a situation like the one you've described with my guy. However, a few times he has alluded to what might happen if he was ever unable to manage his symptoms adequately, and ended up feeling completely overloaded. I often worry that one day he might blow his top and end it because our relationship has become too stressful for him. So I can go some way to understanding how you must be feeling. Take care and remember to be kind to yourself during this difficult time.

 

[Deleted member 27524]

@Lmm I'm sorry your going through that. Having to deal with issues with your ex husband and then being mistreated by your vet is a lot to take in at one time. To me it seems a pretty harsh move on his part to tell you to leave simply because you had to go back to court to deal with some issues involving your ex. I wonder if something else was bothering him and he was looking for just an excuse to push you away? Sending positive vibes your way!

 

[Sweetpea76]

((Hugs)) @Lmm

I am, and I'm done. I can't be with someone who treats me like that

Sometimes you just have to draw that line in the sand. You deserve love and support just as much as he does.