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Oh my gosh, my combat vet is the same way. He refuses to talk about anything emotional, he's been married twice and all I know are their names - nothing more. He says all that doesn't matter and never asks questions about my previous life, relationships, etc. either. I don't know if he doesn't...

Geez this sounds familiar. I obviously have not set clear enough boundaries nor enforced them consistently enough because the better I treat my combat vet, the worse he treats me. :( I have no advice because clearly I'm not doing well enough to give anyone else advice.

Talk with a lawyer asap. Life is full of choices, he's a grown man and is making his own choices. Your responsibility is to your daughter and you must take care of yourself in order to take care of her. Be strong, put you and your daughter first!

When either of us is angry, I don't even attempt to communicate with him because I know it won't go well. I tell him that we need to discuss this later when we're both calm and can have a productive discussion and I remove myself from the area. He's never happy with this but he realizes it's...

I have to agree with everyone. It's time to bail, you don't deserve to be treated like that. Be there as a friend if you feel you need to do that but I'd be very careful not to let him lure you back into a romantic relationship. Best of luck to you.

Hi AlienMongus, my partner has Combat PTSD and your post has provided me with a great deal of insight - I sometimes feel like my situation is so unique that no one understands. My friends certainly don't and that leaves me with no one except my T to talk with about this. I recognized early on...

My CV self medicates with alcohol and is currently in a very bad place. It's not uncommon for him to be intoxicated within an hour of getting home from work. I keep encouraging him to let his T know what he's doing so she can help him help himself. If I say anything directly, he seems to drink...

My Combat Vet is doing everything he can to push me away. We live currently live together and the past 6 months have been pure hell. I feel like he's doing things to force me to leave him. I love him and I'm trying so hard but I don't know how much more I can take. I could really use prayers...

I'm just curious if anyone else had difficulty with the 4th, what happened and how you handled it. We went to a very large fireworks display on the 4th and it ended very badly. He didn't tell me that he hasn't been out on the 4th for nearly 20 years. He's a Combat Vet so I knew it would be...

The wonderful thing about this board is there is no judgment or criticism. Glad you're doing better, that's the most important thing. Best of luck to you.

I'm going thru the same thing with my combat Vet. He was hospitalized in late May and upon release, he visited his T once. She suggested EMDR and long term therapy. When I tried to talk with him about it, his response was simply "I have a plan and I'll do it when I'm ready". I realize he has to...

@CharlotteB Cutting all ties does seem to be a common way for unmarried guys to deploy. Perhaps if you approach him as a friend and not as a girl friend, he would be more receptive to staying in contact (if that's possible) while he's gone. That would buy you some time to decide if you...

@Amanda_j , I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Wish I could give you a hug or tell you something to ease your pain but I can't. The push/pull is very common in PTSD relationships, mine included. There is no easy answer, all you can do...

Thank you for posting this. My NavyDoc is a Combat Vet and I have much to learn about PTSD and being a supporter. Threads like this one are very helpful and I greatly appreciate you sharing.

He's a Combat Vet

@Redwish, at first I was very upset thinking it meant he didn't love me or want to be with me. I realized that couldn't be further from the truth so I started looking him straight in the face and telling him that I love him and I'm not leaving. If he doesn't want to be with me, he needs to leave...

Thank you for the reply Joeylittle. I'm posting for my own information and education. He is considering it and will make the decision in his own time. It has to be his decision alone, I haven't even given an opinion, nor will I unless I'm asked. He isn't a member of the site but I will suggest...

I've had more than a couple emotional outbursts with my NavyDoc. I typically stay very calm and level headed with him but everyone once in a while, he will push all my buttons simultaneously and I'll lose it. In previous relationships, I tried to avoid conflict by not communicating my opinions...

Put yourself first, take care of you before you give him a second thought. You need to talk with someone about what you've been through with him, what you feel and what, if any, contact you want with him in the future. I agree with the Friday and SweetPea, you are in control now, do what you...

My NavyDoc rarely says he loves me and then only in response to me saying it to him. His family is not the slightest bit affectionate to begin with so he comes by it honestly and the PTSD has made it even worse. Hugs, kisses and other pda's are rare and intimacy is also rare. He shows his...

My NavyDoc routinely tells me I should "run in the opposite direction as fast as I can". He's so emotionally numb, he doesn't think he will ever be able to feel anything. The next week, he seems better and we go forward. Welcome to the rollercoaster.

Sounds very similar to my situation. I feel like I'm involved with 2 different people and the one I fell in love with is the one I rarely see anymore. My NavyDoc had a recent hospitalization and is now on new meds. He seemed to be doing better but over the last couple of weeks the alcohol has...

My NavyDoc is also older and has been struggling with PTSD for 25+ years. The intimacy part of our relationship is sporadic at best. Most of the time, I'm lucky to get a peck on the lips. We used to hold hands but that's been gone for a very long time. Like SweetPea, I always let him initiate...

My boyfriend's therapist told him about a treatment, EMDR, that she feels would be very beneficial for him. She likened his brain to a fragmented disk and this treatment would essentially try to defrag him. She said it would improve his quality of life but obviously can't tell him to what...

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. He has struggled with PTSD for over 25 years and he has good days and bad days, lately they've been mostly bad. Every day, I learn something new about PTSD, about him and about myself. In the beginning, I had the same attitude that you do..."we"...