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[cherryblossom]

Sorry to Anthony, and anyone considering volunteering, I'm not trying to put anyone off, I just wanted to be honest about Anthony's approach. I didn't mean to scare anyone. If you seriously want to get your PTSD symptoms under control, and you are prepared to work hard and not fall at the first hurdle, then this is definitely for you!

 

[Innordinate]

The process will be done privately here. The information when posted onto the self help site, will be member only, which means, its not searchable by search engines and a person must register and proceed through the process to see your information and my responses used as examples to give each sufferer an understanding on what they need to be doing. All relevant pages on that site contain a copyright notice that will be enforced if someone ever replicates your personal content.

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All done online? Really? no verbal contact or skyping and shit? There's a huge time gap between here and where you are. Is it going to be scheduled certain times or more random? How many hours at a time or minutes at a time are you planning daily?

Sorry to Anthony, and anyone considering volunteering, I'm not trying to put anyone off, I just wanted to be honest about Anthony's approach. I didn't mean to scare anyone. If you seriously want to get your PTSD symptoms under control, and you are prepared to work hard and not fall at the first hurdle, then this is definitely for you!

You've worked with him this way?

 

[Innordinate]

Being completely serious....... would I have to be sober the whole time?

 

[Mercy]

I can't afford any therapy now. Working with you, Anthony, may be exactly what I need to be doing.

I am diagnosed with PTSD and DID. My earliest rape, documented by a gynocological surgeon, when I was a baby. They ruptured my uterus and made two unguial hernia incisions to sew my uterus down the middle. This is what her pathology report says after a total hysterectomy at the age of 26.

My mother was Bipolar and violent when manic. She tried to kill me at least three times after which she would be institutionalized for many months, sometimes years. She was emotionally abusive. But sometimes she reminded me of a deer caught by the headlights of a truck.

I was trafficked as a child during the times my mother was institutionalized. A forensic psychologist and I worked the least likely number of rapes, if I had been available for 1/2 a year, sold for 1/2 that time and had one rapist a night(not always the case) we are looking at 90 rapes a year for more than 10 years.

I didn't remember anything of this but I had some strange reaction to things. I went into therapy 20 years ago beginning with Art Therapy and gradually went to talk therapy. I took some time out but was badly triggered by Abu Grab and needed to find a serious PTSD Therapist. I was also in group therapy for 6 yrs with a student of Judith Herman as the group leader during that time.

I have worked with the DID and I am not 'integrated'. To the best of my knowledge I am co-conscious. My system consists of children who had been frozen in time, and a doorkeeper so that the appropriate child would be present for events that required her particular experience, eg. child bride. There has been no evidence of the existence of any part being hurtful or dangerous. I do not self harm. I do disassociate usually very quietly and unnoticable to most people. I have a Pollyanna type child who grew into adulthood. She was the part that went to school, church the store. She also held a mountain of denial. You know the type. My name is Cleopatra, Queen of de Nile.

I work at home, am married with adult children. I am 60 and would really like to live the time I have left as a freed slave, no - a free whole person, able to make my own choices without being concerned about being handicapped by this any more.

 

[cherryblossom]

You've worked with him this way?

Yes, I've been in a pretty shit place, and Anthony has questioned me about it, drawn information out of me, and then replied with questions, which I've answered etc, etc,

I actually think the time difference was beneficial for me. I'm in the UK, and Anthony is in Melbourne (?+10 hours). It gives time to fully respond, rather than react. A reaction would be to be pissed off and tell him to f**k off; a response gives you time to understand what has been said and why. You may still want to tell him to f**k off, but you may have a different response given time to think about it.

Being completely serious....... would I have to be sober the whole time?

Obviously I'm not able to speak for Anthony, but I would imagine Yes. Therapy of any kind doesn't work if you are drinking or doing drugs regularly. I'm sure if you had a one off occasion where you were going to have a few drinks, you could still make therapy work. But sobriety in general is pretty much required in therapy.

 

[fairydust]

Hi Anthony

I was sadistically sexually abused by an aunt and uncle over the period of 9 to 14 years. This also involved a number of incidents where groups of men assaulted me organized by my uncle. I was diagnosed with delayed onset PTSD in late 2009.

I am employed fulltime and I have two young children. I have a supportive group of friends, a psychologist who I see weekly/ fortnightly, a psychiatrist who I see on an as needs basis and a supportive gp. Even though I have quite a few commitments I do feel like I have the time, motivation and commitment.

I have been actively working on my PTSD for about 18 months now through trauma therapy however feel like I need more support to get better now that I am trying to expose myself to the trauma and and reduce the intrusive dreams and thoughts and the behavious that go along with them.

I am currently taking 2 mg of Xanax each evening and would eventually like to get off this.

 

[anthony]

Innordinate, therapy via online is quite well studied and actually proving to be more valuable with trauma than face to face, because the issues with face to face when severe trauma is present surpass when the person is within their own environment, truly relax and respond at their will, not instantly upon the spot to a question. Therapy has many many benefits, but trauma therapy, is proving more beneficial via alternative means now the more studies they perform, and obtaining better results, than face to face, because of that very time lag and comforatability the patient has within their own environment.

Therapist love to say otherwise, but the results are consistently speaking for themselves, with many psychologists shifting to online methods, ie. email, chat, private structured conversations (forums), etc... it gives both parties far better time to think about responses and obtain better results.

Being completely serious....... would I have to be sober the whole time?

You respond when you feel like responding, but being drunk when responding would not be ideal, as drinking is something you must get under control prior to any type of trauma therapy.

I think there are enough responses here already to cover the requirements, so I will lock this thread now.

I appreciate all who have responded to mutually benefit one another. I will read through these and notify the two privately who I will help over the coming day or two, and once I have done that, I will post a response here... so if you don't receive a PC from me, then unfortunately you have not been chosen.

Please do not beat yourself up or create negative self statements as to why you have not been chosen, because I quite honestly wish I could help every one of you today, but I simply do not have the capacity right now with my own daily commitments and self management requirements so that I don't get ill myself.

 

[anthony]

anthony saying you will hate him at times is an understatement.You will more than hate him, you will feel like you want to kill him(or yourself) because of some of the things he says. He doesn't sugar-coat anything, he will not be sensitive, cautious or kind.

Yep... getting past that wall of denial is a massively challenging task, but I have a knack to get people beyond it to assess their own life openly, without all the lies and nonsense that hinder.

It will mentally challenge you like nothing you have likely experienced before. I was honest from the start of this thread... you are going to hate me at points, but you will see the results, and I am that confident to guarantee such if you stick with the process. I will not give up on you, providing you do not give up on yourself or the process.

 

[anthony]

I have notified both members already, and both have responded and are aware of who they are. Again, please do not beat yourself up or create negative self statements as to why you have not been chosen, because I quite honestly wish I could help every one of you today, but I simply do not have the capacity right now with my own daily commitments and self management requirements so that I don't get ill myself.