Relationship A Question About Self-worth...

[Bubbles215]

Hi all :)

I've been thinking today about where my combat vet is at the moment, really not in a good place at all.

My question is regarding self-worth, a recurrent theme with him at the moment is that I deserve better and him 'wishing he could be the person I deserve'. Now to me he's everything I deserve and more and I have said this to him but I guess I'm very unsure of where his utter lack of self-worth stems from. I know it is PTSD related but the way he sees himself is so polar opposite to how I see him as a wonderful man. He's also terrified of hurting me, not in the physical sense though. I was just wondering if anyone could give me an insight to this as currently it is a huge barrier for us.

Thank you as ever :):)

 

[EveHarrington]

I'm a sufferer myself and I have no idea how to even start talking about this issue. It's in the forefront of my healing right now and I'm stuck! I'll be following this thread as I'm interested in how others respond to this question.

 

[Sighs]

My vet also struggles with self worth. He often tells me he is a terrible person.

Have you ever seen the movie Michael Collins? Its about the struggles in Ireland. One of the IRA men says "I don't hate the English for what they've done to us. I hate them for what they make me do to them." My vet quotes that line from time to time.

 

[Sweetpea76]

My vet does this too... He says he's a killer, and if I really knew everything he has done, I'd run far and fast away from him.

What can you say to that?

Lately he's been swinging between this and "you're a crazy bitch." Awesome times in the Sweetpea house lately.

 

[Sighs]

@Sweetpea76 - I hear you! I was told on Valentines Day that I need a pysch assessment. Twice.

 

[Sweetpea76]

@Sighs he sent me a link on narcissists and told me I have daddy issues, low self esteem, and an eating disorder... All this week.