Relationship Adderall & afganistan

[Lowe]

He's going to Afghanistan again soon he told me, although he can't tell me details or anything. But he told me to keep doing a good work and gave me a gift " I want you to have it, in case I don't make it back"

Whaaat!?! I'm shocked. We've been dating, I'm new to this all, but this sounded like a scary goodbye.

I'm so scared and sad. I'm not sure if he's going into isolation mode, anniversary is approaching or he really is going back to Afghanistan.

He told me he's been so confused. He's taking Adderall and Norco's.
Is it the drugs that make him confused? These are the only drugs I know he takes, although he once was joking an said lets Go and Smoke Coke???? But was it a joke???

We don't live together, but dating.
He disappears days, couple weeks max. But I understand the isolation need and I let him be alone when he needs to and won't bother him until he comes back around himself when he misses me again.

Anyone else has experiences with Adderall and Norco use in the relationships and how it messes with their head and decision making?

-Need some encouragement! Thanks!

 

[Sweetpea76]

Is he deploying?

 

[Lowe]

He said he might be going. He sounded very anxious. He's waiting to hear, but he can't tell me details.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think you’re catastrophising and jumping to conclusions.

What about taking him at his word instead of coming to the conclusion that drugs are making him crazy?

Is it possible that he’s deploying, scared he might not make it back, and simply wanted you to have that gift?

 

[Lowe]

I think you’re catastrophising and jumping to conclusions.

What about taking him at his word...

Yes that's what I excaxtly understood. Thank you for putting it down for me. We both are scared about what if!

 

[LuckiLee]

You must be so worried. If he's deploying? You should leave him be so he can concentrate on his training.

If he has untreated ptsd AND a drug problem? I'd run like hell. But that's me.

Either way. It's gonna be a bumpy ride. Read around the forums. Decide what you're up for. My relationship ain't always pretty but it's beautiful. (if that makes any sense? Lol)

Welcome to the forums. Have a peaceful night.

 

[Lowe]

You must be so worried. If he's deploying? You should leave him be so he can concentrate on his traini...

Yes I am so worried.

I'm a believer in Gods grace, so I walk in faith in hard times.

I'm not sure if he has a drug problem, I don't see him too often and he's hiding he's pain well plus he always tells me he can't and doesn't want to talk about Afghanistan or he's pain. I let him be. I never push him or run after him. But I let him know I'm here if he ever wants a friend to talk. I'm probably never able to open him up. He keeps pain inside, but with love I give him I hope I can spread some peace in his life. Yes I have read the forum for months, first time posted. Thank you for the warm welcome!

 

[Mytime]

Welcome to the forum :)