St.Maybe
Silver Member
I can definitely relate to this kind of anxiety.
I know it's a lot easier said that done, and forgive me for putting it quite this way, but my advice to you is to try and let go... know that grief will come exactly as it will come, and try to come to terms with the fact that much more likely than not, your lover will return to you happy and well as per usual. We can't stop awful things from happening but we can do our best not to program ourselves to receive bad news because bad news is not a constant, and a wise person once told me that our thoughts are as good as prayers.
Life is full of all kinds of possibilities, and stressing over bad things happening is not an effective way of preparing yourself to respond healthily when things actually do hit the fan. About the only thing that kind of stress is good for is keeping you from enjoying the present moment... let it go because in this form, these feelings don't serve you. They're there for a reason, but they have no use, so put them down.
I'd also like to gently suggest maybe grief counseling.... from personal experience I can say that I wouldn't have this kind of anxiety as much if I had better come to terms with my own grief.
Wishing you well,
Reno
I know it's a lot easier said that done, and forgive me for putting it quite this way, but my advice to you is to try and let go... know that grief will come exactly as it will come, and try to come to terms with the fact that much more likely than not, your lover will return to you happy and well as per usual. We can't stop awful things from happening but we can do our best not to program ourselves to receive bad news because bad news is not a constant, and a wise person once told me that our thoughts are as good as prayers.
Life is full of all kinds of possibilities, and stressing over bad things happening is not an effective way of preparing yourself to respond healthily when things actually do hit the fan. About the only thing that kind of stress is good for is keeping you from enjoying the present moment... let it go because in this form, these feelings don't serve you. They're there for a reason, but they have no use, so put them down.
I'd also like to gently suggest maybe grief counseling.... from personal experience I can say that I wouldn't have this kind of anxiety as much if I had better come to terms with my own grief.
Wishing you well,
Reno
