Can you use that mark of dysregulation to both catch it on & work on it early, SRG, and TO regulate back?
As if there's a theme to dysreg cycles in some particular way or one super clear repeated symptom, it might be possible to not let it go into other bad spins sooner...
And also some times if not able to work on the whole thing, as too deep & tangled in central identity things, tackling the symptom *itself* can take edges off the rest solid.
Until it becomes possible to work on it.
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One of the things I run into periodically is hate toward some demographic groups, as several of my relationships were just long term grooming funny like that. :wtf:
When I catch myself thinking nasty as hell things about them for super simple and no big deal issues - or alternatively, refusing to even think of that nationality, as a whole - or skipping it out of news, altogether (read me a news report & I'll get everything. Except the central part it happened in X country. Nope. Here be lions. Not on my mental map.) - I back down.
Yo, R, you got weee bit of a mess thought here.
Now spot what's utterly normal about that nationality. There's probably grannies taking care of their grandchildren, and moms said kids don't listen to, and plumbers who argued with owners, and car mechanics whose own car broke down the road, and people who couldn't get to places as traffic too busy, blocked, or not existent, and people just walking the dog, and people who love music, and make art, and can't get the right size of dress, and...
Aaah, better :happy: Back to the shrug land of People. Just being people.
But most of all thinking of them *as* people, again.
Instead of dehumanizing them or worse mess my mind thinks is helpful, or a mass non entity.
And like hell would someone in my code deserve nasty anything for being a kid who doesn't like to do homework.
Things like that.
Extremes can be put back into their boxes and moved right along from.
As if there's a theme to dysreg cycles in some particular way or one super clear repeated symptom, it might be possible to not let it go into other bad spins sooner...
And also some times if not able to work on the whole thing, as too deep & tangled in central identity things, tackling the symptom *itself* can take edges off the rest solid.
Until it becomes possible to work on it.
//
One of the things I run into periodically is hate toward some demographic groups, as several of my relationships were just long term grooming funny like that. :wtf:
When I catch myself thinking nasty as hell things about them for super simple and no big deal issues - or alternatively, refusing to even think of that nationality, as a whole - or skipping it out of news, altogether (read me a news report & I'll get everything. Except the central part it happened in X country. Nope. Here be lions. Not on my mental map.) - I back down.
Yo, R, you got weee bit of a mess thought here.
Now spot what's utterly normal about that nationality. There's probably grannies taking care of their grandchildren, and moms said kids don't listen to, and plumbers who argued with owners, and car mechanics whose own car broke down the road, and people who couldn't get to places as traffic too busy, blocked, or not existent, and people just walking the dog, and people who love music, and make art, and can't get the right size of dress, and...
Aaah, better :happy: Back to the shrug land of People. Just being people.
But most of all thinking of them *as* people, again.
Instead of dehumanizing them or worse mess my mind thinks is helpful, or a mass non entity.
And like hell would someone in my code deserve nasty anything for being a kid who doesn't like to do homework.
Things like that.
Extremes can be put back into their boxes and moved right along from.
