Am I An Dumb, Idiot, Fool, Arrogant, Sarcastic, Rude Or Scar (the Villain From Lion King)?

[Go Hungry]

Your brother is full of shit. No, it's not your fault that you didn't see those people gearing up to hurt you. Anyone can say "Oh well I woulda known that" after the fact. If your brother was so damn smart why didn't he see it coming? And even if he did, can anyone in the world blame you for wanting to hang out with nice people instead of that family of ogres that you have to put up with? Grooming is called grooming for a reason. They were trying to build up slow because they expressly didn't want to set up your radar. It's the frog in the pot scenario. So no, that isn't your fault at all. They knew you were smart and were worried you would figure them out. And you did..

And no, you aren't dumb just because you have trouble with word problems. Word problems give me a giant headache, and I'm not dumb. Actually anything beyond simple multiplication and division cause me alot of headaches. But it's not because I'm dumb. And you aren't either. Plus keep in mind that being a hard worker goes a hell of a long way in this world. It goes alot further than just being smart ever will.

You're the winner in this family.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@J_trustno1 You are not stupid and have no culpability in the rape committed against you. It is a crime, the perps belong in hell and if there is karma they will come back as slugs.

I also want to comfort you about the word math problems. First of all, math has a language all it's own. Schools don't teach the basic vocabulary to children which has led to a country full of math impaired people. Word math problems are never part of any intelligence tests. If Algebra made sense to you, then you have good critical thinking skills.

If you were a slow learner who told you that? Is there irrefutable proof of that? I always thought I was slow, stupid, worthless for everything but being my father and brothers target. My brother flunked out of college twice. He never amounted to anything yet my mother worships him.

I wanted to go to college and was told by my parents that all I was good for was cleaning and having children. My science teacher got pissed when I told him that and he called my father and convinced him that I had a lot of potential and my parents let me go. They didn't go to my graduation first in my class. I still thought I was stupid.

Then after my chemical injury I had some brain damage so I had eight hours of neuropsychological testing to assess my brains functionality. I almost passed out when they told me my IQ was in the very superior range and that I am brilliant. That I had very superior critical thinking skills and could learn anything that did not have math as a component because my math skills do not equate with my executive functions.
And they told me I have PTSD, due to all the trauma I experienced in my life. I broke down in tears to hear all that at once.

If you ever have the opportunity to get a neuropsychological test done I recommend it. You will finally get the validation that you deserve. The truth that girls are considerably smarter than men. So men just use terror and insults to keep us down.
Keep your chin up. Shimmerz's mirror idea is brilliant. Give it a try.

 

[scout86]

@shimmerz said it well.

We are all different. I kind of think that's a good thing. It doesn't have to be a competition and it's not a zero sum game. You have value just for being YOU, whether you're the smartest kid in the class or not. Personally, I don't much care who's smarter, you or your brother. Your brother is mean. That's enough for me, I'd want nothing to do with him, I don't CARE how smart he is. You, on the other hand, have not only intelligence, but the ability to relate to other people in ways that are helpful and make the world a better place. I'd pick you over your brother any day. Your dad...... well, too bad he doesn't have a more evolved way of looking at the world. He's missing a lot by not really getting to know you. His loss!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I can so relate to what you have suffered and endured at the hands of your family because it happened to me too.

You are the complete opposite of what you have been brainwashed into believing and you are carrying the shamelessness of your abusers for so long.

It is time for you to start catching yourself when you believe the lies about you that you were abused into believing.

Once I really got that I began to start to hand all of the lies back to my abusers and let them carry the burden of their warped and twisted minds.

You are the superior one and they can see it and they feel threatened by you thus the need to destroy you. Your abusers are really toxic and if I were you I would just disconnect from them and have no further contact. You are not their whipping post and you are truly spectacular as a person and would never harm a human like you were harmed. Set yourself free and start calling the lies what they are. Lies. I wish you the best in your healing and recovery.