Am I Waisting My Time

[Nighthawk]

Im fedup feel minimalised. What good does vaadation do and even more so when I get worse when I hear it. It seems so small in comparison to my realty. Really I am starting to wonder if I am wasting my time. Does the ferris wheel ever stop going around and around. Thinking about quiting my one therapist.

 

[Changing4Best]

Sorry that you are feeling the way you do. I'd say, wait until you have another one lined up before you part company with this one. It is not good to be without a therapist. The changes we make in therapy are small one by one, but overall, it does help in the long run. I saw some major benefit at about the 5th year or so. As you progress in therapy, you will need to see your therapist less often. At least that is my experience anyway.

 

[Friday]

That's one of my rules : I know how bad it sucked. I was there. I do not need to be told how much it sucked. Worse is the "I believe you" BS. Yesssss. And that should be the baseline. I'm not making this shit up. Real stuff. Happened. Hellooooooo. I need help figuring out this shit, not an oozing ball of sympathy leaking all over me :P It just not helpful.

I swear to god, I have had some therapists I've had to piss off to get any kind of real thing coming out of their mouths. Okay. Finally. We're past the BS, now. Can we actually work?

At this point, though, I don't even bother. If their lexicon is tea & sympathy? I'm not going to fight that battle to try and see if there's anything substantive beneath it. Cough. Which is also why I spent more than 6mo this year trying to find a therapist, with dozens and dozens of appointments. But 15 some odd years ago, when the last thing in the world I wanted was therapy? There were blokes out there who didn't leak all over me, and weren't shy about yanking my leash when I was out of bounds. So I do know they exist. It's just that finding them seems to be a bit of a challenge. Water water everywhere & not a drop to drink. Sigh. It's frustrating, Nighthawk. But, yeah, there are people out there wih more solutions than Kleenex.

 

[Nighthawk]

I dont think its that she has a solution more of an avoident approuch. If we dont talk about it then it will go away. ANd I need to accept everthing so i can grieve it yada yada yada. I understand the concept my brain does not translate it right.