Anger

[Chris Whittemore]

I am new to this forum but I came across this. Dos anyone else feel anger when they see and hear about others success. For me it happens when people who never served are getting selected for jobs that I would run circles around. The excuse is oh your age, I'm 40, and just being Around people and even family at times just makes me angry and I don't know how to tell people how I feel since they don't understand

 

[dutchiedelta]

Nope, I wish for others and myself to have a great life. If they are better off, healthier, happier than me, good luck to them.

Out on a limb here but could it be possible you feel wronged for having served, be lumbered with PTSD and perhaps other things and not getting a very fair treatment?

 

[Friday]

Most of the time I'm like Dutch... Fawking loooove good news.

The rest of the time I'm just furious with myself.

Ahem. Unless we're talking about family doing the So&So just won the Nobel peace prize for the 17th time in a ROW! And Whosit? THEY just cured cancer, while also adopting 40 starving children!!! And your cousin? We're so. proud. of your cousin for.... :cautious: At which point I have to very, very carefully not strangle them, and walk my happy ass at least one arms distance away before smashing my head into a brick wall.

 

[Deleted member 43454]

It helps to take some time and reflect on why you feel anger or resentment for others success.
I have been through a phase when I was really angry and I was pissed off that I was burdened with PTSD.
Or this that and the other thing in my personal life that was limiting me in some way.
With friends and those I care about, its good news. I'm talking about acquaintances.

Now a day's I rest assured in this Satanic world, those who wish for money and fame live in vain.
I have all I need and am right where I am supposed to be. When you're content and not in the competitive
negative climbing the ladder of illusion mind set it's a little easier to give positive encouragement or what have you.

Me personally, I am a believer in God so the material objects of this world don't matter to me.
Some people are just phony faking it till they make it and I can't stand that.
I dislike pretending in conversation as well lol, shit changes we go from
happy go lucky the world is sunshine and rainbows to the pits of hell and back up again.
Whatever you're going through is for a reason I believe.

Whether its to make you stronger, guide you in a certain way, etc so forth.

 

[Kaishi]

Frustrated with myself or the system, whichever that means at the time, yes. I'm on that all the time.

Angry? No, not really, I can put that anger into more useful things, such as getting the gaddam things I'm after. Or letting go if it's not feasible at the time.

 

[Grizzly]

I get angry. But only at myself when I fail myself. Often I see PTSD as a failure to myself. Failure for not being able to tough it out. And I'm angry.

I am slowly learning to forgive myself though. And I become less angry.

Perhaps your anger is stemming from yourself and how you're reflecting onto your own self. Thi may not be you per se. But it is me.

 

[CyclePath]

It always pisses me off to see people advance that aren't the best qualified while a better person is denied while being discriminated against for whatever reason. The hard part is in realization that this actually happens or that maybe the right person was actually picked. It cannot be a go to excuse, but either way it should serve a platform to make yourself better. Do whatever it takes to make yourself more competitive every day.

 

[oldschool1]

Grizzly said: I get angry. But only at myself when I fail myself. Often I see PTSD as a failure to myself. Failure for not being able to tough it out. And I'm angry.

I relate big-time...anger just eats you alive, work as hard as you can to find anything to alleviate the cause and for me that being my inability to beat back the PTSD. You are still young and have a chance to somewhat get a handle on it...if you wait to long anger will take over your life and it is lonely...

 

[vikingr24]

When I first started therapy, ANGER was the issue. The therapist said I did not understand that being angry was OK. Jonas Salk was an angry person and he invented the polio vaccine. Anger is the calling of CARE. It means you give a shit. And in some ways it's a blessing. A gift.
Admit it to yourself. We are Type A's. (Learned that at jump school. Still hear Sarge's voice yelling that out.) The world needs people like us because we care. If everyone was a Type B, nothing would get done.

We just can't let it dominate our own life. Learn to Let It Go. Not easy. I get so f**g pissed off at times. And then I know I'll get depressed. And then it's a hard day at the gym. But in the end, you have to let it go.