Anxiety And Sex?

[Glo809]

Greetings

I have a bit different take on this subject, it has been 9 years since the mrs and I have had relations.

But it was nobody's fault, med issues on my part, then the change on her part, and then lack of interest from both of us.

Problem is, my meds changed and now I am interested in relations.

But no go, and was told, don't expect a change.

We are 60 and 56 years old.

G

 

[Powder]

I have a medical/biological take on this to just suggest as an idea to talk to the Dr. about.

I have had anxiety come up from running, wheezing, or anything that makes me short of breath.

Can you think of this as anything other than post-coital? In other words, could you try using a stair step or seeing if getting your heart rate up does the same thing?

It is well known that with GAD and PTSD, just getting a fast heart rate can trigger anxiety sometimes. Oxygen deprivation, shallow breathing, exacerbates anxiety.

I don't know, but I thought I'd mention this in case it has any bearing on your situation.

I guess my point is that I hope you find the source and can deal with it so that you and your significant other can resume the physical side of your relationship and be happy.

 

[Glo809]

Greetings
Seeems my dx of ptsd and my outward symptoms has triggered her own version, and from what I do know, no suprise here.

Thing is she refuses any medical help, I'm wrapped as tight as they come, but even I realized I needed help.

So we both anguish in our private hell.

G

 

[Kallisti]

No. My relationship was find and my boyfriend was supportive and there for me during that difficult...

Am sorry to hear you are experiencing this. A late suggestion from me - if thinking about sex and having sex makes you anxious, maybe a possibility would be to stop having sex the way you usually do, and try to masturbate together, maybe? Make it playful and less overwhelming for you? In my experience, anxiety about sex has been helped by having sex less frequently and by trying out sexual practices that are fun and relaxing to me. I have dealt with tonnes of anxiety concerning sex, avoiding sex, participating in sex I shouldn't have, and so on and so forth. It took me years to identify my triggers and stressors and guilt and fear (still working on them), but it's worth it, my advice is to not push yourself too far and to find ways in which you can relax and enjoy your relationship and your own sexuality without feeling fear or anxiety. Best wishes.