General Bed Wetting?

[Slynn]

I live with my partner and we share a bed. when we sleep together he is fine, but if I am not sleeping in the bed with him, or in the room, he wets the bed. Has anyone else experienced this with their sufferer? Any tips on what we can do to help him stop? I am away for two weeks not, visiting family, so a quick fix would be good! (though I know there is rarely suck a thing as a quick fix)

 

[amethist]

Not sure what to suggest Slynn, except to make sure you have those disposable bed protectors in ready.

It could be because when he is on his own the anxiety it a lot higher, then when you are there.

 

[Lucycat]

Has he been to see a doctor about this? There are pills called Desmomelts ( Desmopressin) that help some people. If they are going to work, they usually do so within the first few nights of trying them. If not the dose can be increased and try again.

I appreciate this is probably a psychological problem, but nonetheless medication CAN help some people.

Websites to look at are Promocon ( Promoting continence) and ERIC.ORG ( aimed mostly for children but might be helpful) These are both UK sites that are easily found by Google.

There is certainly help for this problem, but commonly people are embarrassed to ask for it. The doctor will have heard it all before and will be sympathetic. Your partner does not need to suffer like this.

If you are away does your partner do anything different - such as more alcohol,caffeine or fizzy drinks? Does he dress differently for bed? Does he sleep better or worse? Does he have concerns about getting up to the bathroom in the night if alone? Does he sleep with a bright light/TV on? ( Light prevents your kidneys from getting the message that it is night, so will continue to produce as much urine as in the daytime - controlled by hormone Vasopressin)

I do hope that you find something that helps. Please don't give up - it is fixable!

 

[Mrs. T]

Don't know what to suggest, but my husband has done this as well as a result of intense nightmares

 

[_elizabeth_]

I also don't have a solution but I can say that my husband has done this, too. It does seem to accompany anxiety/nightmares and is exacerbated by stress.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I know this is probably a moot point but is he using depends? He needs to be able to do this without ruining your bed. The smell is bad. I do not know what causes it , I wish you well in dealing with this problem. Hugs.

 

[HëllaBubz]

Extreme spikes in stress and anxiety caused it in me.

Find a calcium and B12 supplement.

There is a private nutritional therapist with experience dealing with PTSD and anxiety.

naturalfoodco.com.au

She has helped me heaps, and I highly recommend her, highly non judgemental, and will go the extra mile to help you in whatever way she can.

You don't have to visit her, you are able to purchase supplements through her website or contact her and she will get straight back to you, and she is very conscious of people struggling with money, so don't be afraid to ask for some assistance with a little price negotiation.

 

[MikeJohnson]

It’s a good idea to visit your pediatrician. The doctor can do a series of tests to rule out abnormalities that might be causing the problem, and help put your mind at ease about bed wetting. Use a bed wetting alarm -- A device that is worn and makes noise to wake when it gets wet can also help your child feel like he is doing something to stop wetting the bed.

drybuddy Bedwetting Alarm

 

[Lucycat]

can also help your child feel like he is doing something to stop wetting the bed

Sadly it is not children being discussed here - but adults, who are generally to embarrased or ashamed to seek help.

 

[Still waiting]

To my knowledge the bed wetting is brought on by sexual trauma and can be subconsciously brought on. It is a defensive mechanism to "thwart" the attack again. Same as over eating and gaining lots of weight to repulse the offender. He needs therapy to work through this and a lot of support!