Bf Has Combat Ptsd. He Has Stopped Communicating To Me. Help!

[1bluetree]

My Boyfriend is in ATL GA. Army retired in 2006. Did 4 tours in Iraq. Last tour ended in 2006. 26 yr Veteran. We connected in 2011. Part of that year was a shut down. I had no idea about PTSD. I educated myself about it and thru Veterans I know locally here in CA. We resumed our relationship in 2012. Up until 2 weeks ago, I had communication with him. He was to move here by Oct 11. Now he will not anwser Phn or text. He has simply dropped out of my life. I have not seen him since May 21st. ( My last visit was 5 weeks with him )All this time we have talked or text. Correction. He stopped texting on Aug 3rd. But would still talk to me....then it became like I was the only person calling....then the calls dropped to 1 time a week...now nothing. All thru the months I would bring up the subject...of his moving here...his responses were to appease me. I never truly felt like it would happen due to the PTSD. In 3 days is Oct 11. If he is shutdown like before....I will hear nothing for probley months...I'm afraid! I don't want to lose him. We have had a pretty good relationship...I'd fly there or he here.
My question is: Should I fly 3000 miles to ATL for answers? Risk getting a door slammed in my face? We have never had a bad argument. If we ever disagreed about something, we talked it out. He has never shown too much emotion(s) , I accept this of him. He has issues, and I am aware of them. Egg shells yes at times. Nothing outrageous....What should I do? I also want you to know, we met as kids, 18, me 19. We were very close friends....He then was sent to Germany...I never knew where he was....Then 30 yrs later he finds me on Facebook! We fell in love. We are both single. He has been divorced since 2001. No kids for him. Please someone help me figure out what to do! Oh and due to financial issues, it would not be till early Nov to fly to ATL. Please someone help! Am I wasting my time? Should I just forget that he can move here? I know love is hard to feel from him. I accept that. Were both 52.

 

[Spock]

This forum is for veterans only, but our sister site is set-up to specifically help you and other non-veterans with these types of questions. It is listed at the top of this page under "Network." You can find it here at this link:
https://www.myptsd.com/

Best Wishes

 

[Jimmy1]

Sometimes it wears real thin on me. You can only be so nice.

 

[Spock]

I thought as much so I gave you a break and took care of it for you ;)

 

[Anglesachse]

Sometimes it wears real thin on me. You can only be so nice.

Does that mean I am allowed out to play Jimmy cocker?

Just asking.

But on another note, why haven`t you banned her till Anthony gets to read it. She did after all blatently get on the wrong bus. And I thought that was what the CTB possie were for, well aswell as keeping me in check that is.

But can I answer her, you know you want me to! :cool: I mean I will share, We can get Ned to let Alan out, maybe Zip and Red are up for it even.

 

[Jimmy1]

No mate, what the 'Posse' are for is if a thread gets out of hand. We can ban someone who gets hot under the collar.
The only person with the power to ban is Anthony.

 

[reddevil1111]

oh. I wanted to play. I've been so good lately. Cant I have just a bit of fun?

 

[JarHed]

No mate, what the 'Posse' are for is if a thread gets out of hand. We can ban someone who gets hot under the collar.
The only person with the power to ban is Anthony.

Why is this still not clear to people.Speak of being tired of something, I'm tired of the fact that we seem to have to keep explaining this. Like it's something we want to have or do.

 

[Spock]

 

[reddevil1111]

God Jar, your sexy when your mad....

 

[Anglesachse]

Granpa cocker, Un bunch those panties and HTFU. or you`ll be banning yourself :eek: Can you guys actualy do that? that would be intresting to know.

Hmm, who can I wind up first, Sarg, Jenny, Jimmy or Granpa Jarson

But Red does have a point. :love: you sexy old Goat Granpa. Grrrrrrrr:whistle:

 

[JarHed]

I don't know why there is still so much confusion about this whole thread ban and banning thing. And why does it keep getting rehashed, over and over. I just find that f*cking annoying, that's all. To use your expression, are you daft? By the way, this system has been in place since July and no one, not one person has been banned from a thread. Not one.

Old is a point of perspective, especially from the young, yes I am sexy, terribly sexy and as far as the goat thing I am hung like a ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, OPPS! Sorry ladies and kiddies. :rolleyes:

All I'd say Angle, is let the past go. Or eat yourself up about it.