Confused But Healing

[Wraithe]

Hiya all,

I was diagnosed with PTSD about 10 years ago related to a caustic relationship with my family in general. I found this site while looking up 'cutting off family'. I was pleasantly suprised to see others with the same issues/thoughts that I have been struggling with. I hope that I am able to help others going forward as you are helping me just by sharing.

 

[Sandra]

Welcome to the forum.

And yes I have cut my brother out of my life due to him constantly abusing me.

 

[Helliepig]

I have little to do with my family. My hope is one day i can have some interaction that is not replaying old scripts and causing me pain, when I'll do it on terms. Until then, I'm protecting myself!
I think controlling exposure to difficult people, especially from the past, is a healthy step in the right direction
This site is ace for making you realise you are not alone!

Welcome to the forum

 

[intothelight]

Hi Wraithe,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum. I am glad you found this site helpful with your present situation. It is really hard to cut off family. I hope you find the information and support here helpful as you work towards healing.

Wishing you peace.
Debbie

 

[Helliepig]

sorry, meant to say, "when I'll do it on my terms"

 

[maddog]

Welcome aboard Wraithe, you've come to the right place for support and empathy, there's more of it here than you could ever imagine.

I'm also in the process of cutting significant family members out of my life. And I say "in the process", as it isn't smooth sailing and hasn't turned out to be a single action. It's hard... so unspeakably hard, on a very primitive level too, because no matter the past, your family is still your family, biologically wired to you in ways that aren't always palatable or easy to admit.

I do hope you feel you can share some of your story with us over time.

Maddog

 

[Wraithe]

I will....just need time to wrap my brain around the fact that others may actually believe my struggles. My family doesn't believe me even though they have seen the night terrors, the irrational need to check windows, the sleep walking, the dissasociation with the world. It is all made up to them. I have no right to have 'issues'...and I have no right to point the finger at them. Kinda angry and hurt today over yet another piece of pain they have collectively and individually dropped on me and my child in the last few days. Thanks for the welcomes and I look forward to sharing.

 

[maddog]

So sorry to hear this mate. And the fear, and of course the reality, of not being believed, is a vicious demon all its own, and a common means of manipulating us into silence and protecting the abusers.

Nobody here is in the business of judging or disbelieving - afterall, who on earth would want to deliberately create this sort of hell for themself!! I've never understood that logic!

Take care today.

Maddog

 

[Girl3]

Let us just say that those who perpetrate abuse on others would not likely realize or empathize - that is why they are perpetrators. Cut the strings so your balloon may soar. Otherwise you tether yourself. You may choose to come down at some other point of your own accord.