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I agree. Thank you for your inputI would just like to say that in this situation I think it could be dangerous to all parties involved...
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I agree. Thank you for your inputI would just like to say that in this situation I think it could be dangerous to all parties involved...
This was really eye opening, thank you! And I'm just so sorry to hear about what happened to you. That's sick. I'm appalled just reading that. How can someone do that? I really don't understand.Just wanted to add, I've never known people who were "crazy" in some way not to have
experienced or witne...
I would urge you to conduct an experiment. See how you feel when you're away from your family.
I get the exact same results from this experiment.
Problem? I come from a really amazing family, and had a pretty dang golden childhood. There's no history of abuse or neglect anywhere in my family. Are they perfect? Hell no! But both individually, and as a whole, they're all of them solidly good people.
In point of fact, some of the flooding relief of being on my own (now as an adult) or excitement of being on my own (as a teenager/young adult) is because of how well I was raised; by very loving & child centric people. It's called secure attachment.
There are other pieces as well (personality, preference, PTSD, etc.); but the point being? Trying to reverse engineer abuse? Is a very dangerous thing.
I would urge you to conduct an experiment. See how you feel when you're away from your family.
Even if it is in the library or in the back yard for a few stolen moments. Somewhere safe. Do your symptoms start to abate at all? Again, finding a good therapist who really gets you and your history is important because you need to have in person support in case your memories start flooding back.
It's one thing to already know there's abuse present and follow it to see ABC. It's another to see ABC, and decide that means there must be abuse.
It's a lot like if I tell someone they need to get their arm cut off if they've got a fever. Ummmm??? :O_o: Well, that's actually damn good advice if they have a fever from gangrene, removing the gangrenous limb will save their life. It's not good advice if they've got strep throat, or malaria, or a cold, or heat stroke, or a ruptured appendix... Or any of the hundreds of causes of fever.
If you can find someone you trust who has a holistic view of mental health, instead of the
prevailing biological/medical model, you could start to unpack some of what seems to be
a tremendous load of difficult memories or experiences. Get as much genuine support as
you can. Repressed memories can come flooding back very quickly and can be very
overwhelming.
Please keep reaching out until you find the help you need. You'll definitely need to find someone
with experience in your type of concerns, because what you've experienced seems quite
protracted. Very best of luck!!!
My dad is already abusive (verbally).
idn't pay attention to me as a kid. My dad a little too much, my mom not at all. This caused horrible stress in myself because I love her very much but I felt she never cared for me. I tried running away and sleeping outside because she made me so upset. (She eventually changed and now we're best pals)
2. Dad touched me a lot but I thought it was normal.
3. Unexplained money or lots of toys, being spoiled too much as a kid.
If my sister is visiting from college, my stress and vigilance is up x2. I have to be on alert if both of my parents are home, even my mother, even though she is my "safe" parent. (It's confusing because she helps me and loves me but she's constantly yelling at me and making me so stressed I feel sick. I don't talk about this because it's 'normal' for a parent to tell you to do things. It's just the manner she does it. Makes me sick with fear).
That sounds perfectly reasonable for a young person with autism. Most young people I know with autism h...
I'd completely disagree with @bento thal all children with mental health issues have experienced abuse or neglect. That is their experience but it's not universally true. Young people can and do develop anxiety, depression etc for lots of reasons - many of which are the same reasons adults do. Loss, significant life changes, body image, bereavement, pressure to achieve at school, transitions, difficult social relationships all can lead to mental health issues and are way more likely to happen that child abuse in that these things are part and parcel of every child's life, even in a secure, safe home.
@bento - more food for thought: when you encourage people to believe that the...
Read again what the OP said about the cat, because I am not sure where you got ongoing abuse of a cat out of thatwitnessing father's ongoing abuse of cat
That doesn't sound like ongoing to me.I would break things or rip up my room or kick my cat (I know it sounds awful. I saw my dad do it as a child and I thought that's how you get rid of your anger)
People give gifts when they feel bad, and parents give gifts to their children. Some people find what one person considers to be normal affection uncomfortable. I think the question here is if the OP expressed that to their father and asked them to stop. The "long stares," and saying "I made beautiful Kids (note the plural) sounds like a proud parent.fighting everyday and getting presents everyday from father
long stares from father, uncomfortable touching from father
Look at the OP's history of hygiene and tell me how they could not get UTI's from that. It is unavoidable with those kind of hygiene issues.physical symptoms often related to abuse e.g. severe UT infections, stomach pain, etc
Read again what the OP said about the cat, because I am not sure where you got ongoing abuse of...
A while back the question arose of "what I molested/sexually abused as a child?" but passed it off as a delusion. After talking with family and friends, they brought it up. I really think something happened.