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Coping with PTSD: Battling Self-Expectations and Societal Pressure

Ty_

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I have been diagnosed with PTSD. But I can't get rid of the thought that what I went through isn't bad enough. That I should just move on? It's probably something I have internalised as people have said this to me. Rationally, I would never compare anyone's experiences but me being myself, I think I beat myself up for not being able to move on and live like everyone else around me. It's so suffocating to live in my own head sometimes. Any advice or suggestions for this situation?
 
hello ty. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

you are already following my most trusted suggestion for your current situation. finding a safe, supportive place to sort through these confusions makes a key difference in my own recovery. it's allot to sort and my head is not a safe place to travel alone. i take company whenever possible.

my follow up suggestion would be to keep developing this thread and see where it takes you. small steps make the surest journey.

welcome aboard. i hope you find stabilizing companionship here. you are not alone.
 
I have been diagnosed with PTSD. But I can't get rid of the thought that what I went through isn't bad enough. That I should just move on? It's probably something I have internalised as people have said this to me. Rationally, I would never compare anyone's experiences but me being myself, I think I beat myself up for not being able to move on and live like everyone else around me. It's so suffocating to live in my own head sometimes. Any advice or suggestions for this situation?
I've no advice or suggestions. I'm just wanting to let you know that others experience the same thought process. I myself often wonder how others can be so resilient, who have been through unimaginably horrific things, while I'm a mess. But then I remember that trauma isn't the event itself, but rather the response some people have; and that no one really knows (I dont think) why some develop PTSD, while others don't. There was a theory back in the day, after the Vietnam War, that lack of support after the trauma could predict ptsd, but I'm not sure that stuck, as researchers still say it can't be predicted, as far as I know.
 
But I can't get rid of the thought that what I went through isn't bad enough. That I should just move on?
Almost EVERYBODY here same the same thing at some point. It's funny in a way because for those of us with complex trauma, it is almost guaranteed that at some point you will catch your T making the OMG face, and you will be thinking "it wasn't that bad".

Sooner or later along the road you will get to "it really was that bad". But that needs help and therapy.

Are you doing any kind of therapy @Ty_ ?
 
hello ty. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

you are already following my most trusted suggestion for your current situation. finding a safe, supportive place to sort through these confusions makes a key difference in my own recovery. it's allot to sort and my head is not a safe place to travel alone. i take company whenever possible.

my follow up suggestion would be to keep developing this thread and see where it takes you. small steps make the surest journey.

welcome aboard. i hope you find stabilizing companionship here. you are not alone.
Thank you for replying! It means a lot to me :)
Almost EVERYBODY here same the same thing at some point. It's funny in a way because for those of us with complex trauma, it is almost guaranteed that at some point you will catch your T making the OMG face, and you will be thinking "it wasn't that bad".

Sooner or later along the road you will get to "it really was that bad". But that needs help and therapy.

Are you doing any kind of therapy @Ty_ ?

So this is a more common experience than I thought 🤔. Kind of? My psychiatrist is doing therapy ig but it's like once a month. I'm looking into therapy based on trauma but it's difficult to find someone in my area. I haven't had good experiences with counsellors and doctors or even therapists so it's disheartening but I'm trying to fight for it ig. Thank you for replying!
 
"So this is a more common experience than I thought 🤔. Kind of?"

I think everyone asks that question when they first get here. It's like a qualifier that says yup - this person likely has PTSD

Have you looked into remote therapy, via the internet? I am no expert and have not looked into it myself but there are some here that do it. It became more popular during Covid and some just kept going with it.
 
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"So this is a more common experience than I thought 🤔. Kind of?"

I think everyone asks that question when they first get here. It's like a qualifier that says yup - this person likely has PTSD

Have you looked into remote therapy, via the internet? I am no expert and have not looked into it myself but there are some here that do it. It became more popular during Covid and some just kept going with it.
I am. It's just expensive so I'm taking my time. I also haven't had the best experience with them and so it's hard to trust people.
 
It can be hard to find a good therapist, so don’t get discouraged if you can’t find a good fit right away. I am 3 sessions in with a new therapist and I truly have hope this is a good fit for me as she is giving me skills that can help me deal with my symptoms. (She’s treating the OCD type stuff as that’s my current presenting symptom set. I have been through much therapy & treatment for PTSD in the past.)
 
Questioning a diagnosis is a smart thing to do, IMO. Especially with disorders & conditions that cannot be directly tested for, and x10 when those disorders and conditions are frequently misdiagnosed.

At a bare minimum it gives one a better understanding the the disorder they DO have -or- saves them wasting years attempting to jam a square peg into a round hole with a disorder they DO NOT have.

The following 2 articles are a great place to start.


 
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