Dealing with Mixed Signals from Men

Ocean147

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I'm curious to know, does anyone else feel like it's hard to make genuine guy friends? I have one from high school but I used/still like him and he wants to hang out sometime. Although, he's usually busy with his art business and I'm left on read. He's a good friend just a little clueless lol. I also have a coworker with whom I have gone to coffee with once. When I asked again, he said he valued my friendship and went into a loooong paragraph on how a girl he went to coffee with thought he was leading her on. Red flag? Maybe. And like, it's fine, by now I'm used to the "friendzone". You see, I used to text him every week, but I'm trying to maintain some space at work. You probably figured out, he's my lastest crush. Big time. Kind, funny, helpful. It has been hard because he likes to playfully tease me sometimes, in a nice way. Is that something guys do?? The heck? Oof I'm obviously not used to that. My crutch is I always seem to fall for them. It's embarassing. But acknowledging it is the first step I suppose.
 
Only if I’m not certain in my own motives.

When I’m clear in my own? Others are obvious. When I’m conflicted? So is my ability to read others.
That makes a lot of sense. My counselor thinks I'm ready to try dating again but I wish there wasn't any pressure. I guess with the right person, it won't feel that way.
 
Mostly the pressure from society. And my other friends and family who I see have married or are dating for 5 months or something like that. I think I need to learn how to be more in tune with my intuition. Which I realize now, is probably damaged from my past trauma.
 
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