Do Insensitive People Make You Mad?

[Rizen]

To start, I don't like people anyway. Sometimes I take personal offense to when people are insensitive to a general situation. For example I get triggered when people try to support guns after a school shooting. I'm in the Columbine High School and Batman Theater shooting state Colorado and I know someone how was in the theater and someone who's son was shot and killed. So when some jerk say something about how 'liberals failed to take everyone's guns away' as a comment on a news report about an elementary school shooting it really burns me up. Gun regulation is not taking guns away and is that so unreasonable? Kids are getting gunned down.

Another recent example is when someone said something that was written in the National Review Online: [DLMURL]http://www.nationalreview.com/article/378310/crying-rape-j-delgado/page/0/1[/DLMURL]
"(2) Are women themselves being taught to believe they were raped (the aforementioned “only sober consent is true consent!” notion)? Yes. And that, ironically enough, makes these women victims of liberal culture, too."

I don't want to get into what the article is about or why it's absurd. What this thread is about is these things infuriate me even though I was never actually shot or raped. I was afraid of being shot throughout high school though. I have a very strong sense of justice and have Complex PTSD from taking care of other people, two of whom died, and having to hear about how much pain someone is constantly in but hold everything together. So I have a protector sort of mindset. Things like bigotry, prejudice and hateful people really infuriate me. I mean people sometimes absolutely disgust me beyond belief. I think most people are just ignorant of how bad it is to have been raped or shot or have a terminal illness and so on so they don't get how hurtful what they're doing is. I can relate to people in an indirect way: relating my PTSD to sort of understand a different trauma and it makes me mad when other people are insensitive. I don't know how bad it is for a lot of people but I do know how I've seen them suffer. I'm rambling at this point; you get the idea.

 

[Katherine F]

Its ok to feel the way you feel. Your entiled to that. I stay away from pretty much everyone except my close family and two freinds. I have to avoid people like that because it just puts me in a bad place that can turn worse real quick.

 

[anthony]

No, they don't make me mad... they're entitled to their view and opinions, regardless of sensitivity.

 

[ChasingMyTail]

I don't get bothered by them as long as they keep it to just posting their nonsense online. The ones that tick me off are those to take it to real life and cause further trauma to the families of the victims. Such as those calling up the parents of the Sandy Hook victims to explain to them their children never existed.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Don't ever watch Fox News? You'll see a LOT of off the wall, insensitive liberal bashing. To them, liberals are to blame for EVERYTHING! Even Rush Limbaugh bashing the First Lady for supporting #BringBackOurGirls. I don't think you can get much more insensitive than that. The sad thing is that lots of people support the views of these insensitive (to put it lightly) people. I just have to ignore them and focus on myself unless it is something that has a direct effect on my life. I'd like to take more action, stand up for what's right, but it is too high of a personal price to pay.

 

[Caterpillar]

I have a very strong sense of justice and have Complex PTSD from taking care of other people, two of whom died, and having to hear about how much pain someone is constantly in but hold everything together. So I have a protector sort of mindset. Things like bigotry, prejudice and hateful people really infuriate me.

My PTSD stems from the same cause, and I have the same reaction you do, at least to issues which I feel relate to the horrible things I've had to witness. I get triggered and extremely angry and confrontational, which is why I try to avoid debates for the most part. However, when people put their opinions in my face, I am going to react, because the truth is I don't think everyone is entitled to their opinion. People with certain opinions will vote for representatives with the same opinions, and those representatives will vote for measures which really hurt real people. As a writer I believe words have power, and every time some people open their mouths (or keyboards) they're spreading a poison which literally kills. I feel it would be immoral for me not to vehemently object and try to counteract their poison with words of my own.

So yes, you're not the only one who feels this way.

 

[Barberian]

Free will, free speech I try to let it not bother me. It's a choice. I can choose to be upset and bothered, or not. I know there are people out there who will do or say anything for their 5 min of fame, or to try and troll someone or group just for the fun of it, or to support some (defective?) feeling deep inside of them. Why give them power over me, my emotions and thoughts. That is what they are after.

It's hard to talk the talk, walk the walk sometimes. Take the church who would have nasty demonstrations at veterans funerals who fell during/because of the war. Ya, that bothers me. This is personal. I try to let it go, and for the most part I am able to. Their free speech is what I served for. The part that gets me is why cause extra pain that the families and friends have to endure because of these asshats. Why? WHY? Of all the ways they could protest, why do it at one of the most sensitive times in the survivors lives, in one of the most hateful and hurtful ways they can? There are countless others ways. Troll the politicians, not the service members and their families, friends.

You can't legislate out stupidity. Only Darwinism can do that.

 

[Meadowsweet]

No, I don't get mad about them.

The world is a big place, and in terms of the article you linked to, I haven't read it, but what you posted as its title is something I do kind of agree with - so I would read the article and consider what it says.

What I'm trying to say, is that if people were over worried about being insensitive, then nothing would ever get written, and controversial subjects would never be discussed. We'd end up with everyone just giving a load of bullshit that makes them look 'nice' and never finding an inch of any real understanding.

I have been a victim (in the physical sense), and I am amazed at the complete blindness that many people have of what abuse actually is. But, if it is open to discussion, then that's a good thing. People who 'aww' and say, 'isn't it awful' a lot, are equally as ignorant, but in my view, are a lot less willing to discuss and learn anything that might help them take their blinkers off.

 

[TLight]

I'm with you, I don't care for humans in general.

But I also stay away from reading or discussing anything with insensitive people. I don't have the energy to waste on complete ignorance. There are highly energetic activists out there who can take on that job.
I've been angry and full of rage most of my life....now I just want peace.

So if I have an encounter with anyone where I even get a 'whiff' of this kind of insensitivity and ignorance, it's a red flag for me to not bang up against them, but to go around them.

I believe giving these types of people energy only empowers them, so I won't give them a red cent of mine.

 

[silkleaves]

I pay little to no mind when people speak their mind about things I don't agree with. The only time it affects me is if they are making things personal, and specifically talking about me or someone that I care about...that's the point where I feel the need to set them straight.