Relationship Do your suffers read this forum?

[DFT1]

I was talking to my suffer the other day, and she said something that implied she has been reading my posts and the replies. I didn't even realize it at the time, and even suggested she go look up Freidas posts about her experience with EMDR, but I think she has been reading my posts and the replies because she goes through my computer from time to time.

Do your suffers ever read the stuff you post here when looking for support?

 

[New]

Not that I’m aware of. If you have a good relationship and are comfortable I would ask.

 

[Hojay]

You know, sometimes I’ve had a feeling he does. He’s said things that somewhat echo what I’ve written on here, but that could also be a coincidence. If he does read it, I’m fairly certain it hasn’t done any harm. He’d have had a fit if something I’ve written here didn’t sit well with him. I don’t write anything here that i wouldn’t at least like to say to him in person, so there’s that. But yeah, I’m conscious of the possibility.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

The trick is, don't tell them. This is "my site" and no one has the URL except for my therapist. I am a sufferer but that can fit for a supporter. Your SO doesn't need to know every site you vist and if they do I see that is super controling. Change your username on here and don't tell them what it is. Don't allow the old one to appear on your profile and there you go. I'd also set a boundry there. Explain your feelings about them reading what you write and your need for privacy here as a place to get support. Maybe compare it to therapy for them?

 

[joeylittle]

In my observation, it’s pretty rare for a sufferer and supporter to openly co-exist on this forum for any length of time.

How much secret reading one’s partners do...I think it depends on the individuals involved, whether it could be productive or not. Sufferers use this place differently from one another.

I’d like to think I could share with a partner that I’ve got stuff on this site, and that I could ask them to not come here. I wouldn’t want them reading it - but could imagine printing out and sharing certain things.

Face to face will always be the best way to communicate.