Does Anyone Feel Attacked When They Receive A Grammar Correction?

[Britt.f7]

Anbe, in the beginning it confused me too as to what I did wrong. Then I realized, after going back and forth, that it was because they had corrected it and that was what I was now looking at. It is difficult not to feel it is personal, but I don't think it is. I hope you don't let an issue such as this one get in your way. This is a great forum.

 

[Legend]

I have gotten a few, I never thought it personal in nature, and did not take it as such. I have Dyslexia which causes me to have a bit of a problem with reading and spelling. I kind of look at the correction from the Moderators in a good and helpful way. Left to my own devices I can make some pretty good mistakes. It helps me to focus and pay attention more to what I write.:hug:

 

[Whitneys story]

Anbe, I too was so nervous. Good grief, eight language's. I have trouble with two.

Reading the New Member Rules will explain why we need uniformity with writing. This site is world wide. Being a PTSD Forum of members with many backgrounds and cultures, the rules are for our best interest.

Therefore it is safe here, we are allowed open discussion which helps us learn from others. The following is my favorite comparison as to why proper grammar is important.

"Let's eat, Grandma!"
VS
"Let's eat Grandma!"
I do hope you stay. Great help is here.
Welcome to the Forum, Whitney

 

[Abstract]

how I messed up

Anbe,
I had a similar reaction to you in some ways. Not helped by me having previously been obsessive about writing and grammar and having worked hard to loosen up.

As Britt said the post will have been "fixed" so the best solution I find is to start a thread in the Helpdesk section and ask what was wrong. Everyone makes mistakes so you are not alone.

Also it isn't about perfect grammar and language and is more about being in a form that makes it easier for others to read. So that means proper paragraphs, spell check and starting a sentence with a capital letter and ending with a full stop. Basic grammar really.

Your English seems very good to me! Give yourself some time to adjust.

 

[Orglethorp]

I also feel this way about the grammar notices. The odd thing is that I've been here since September or so, and I've received a total of three warning, but they have all been quite recent. They started coming in after I hadn't been on for a month or so, and I really did feel very offended and put-off by them. I don't remember what the first one was for at all. The second was because the person who edited my post felt I needed a space between each item in a list (which I really don't agree with). The third I will admit was my fault; I used a slang abbreviation for the word "because." I was really tired when I wrote that one and forgot about the rules.

I realize that these notifications are never a personal thing, but yes, I was quite offended. I am 100% in favour of editing posts that are unreadable, and I hold nothing against the staff members doing this job, but I get unreasonably flustered when I get a warning over one word and then see replies in the same thread without edit lines at the bottom that don't make sense and don't end up being fixed.

 

[cherryblossom]

and then see replies in the same thread without edit lines at the bottom that don't make sense and don't end up being fixed

I just wanted to clarify that only the person who posted, and staff members can see edited notices at the bottom of posts, so you will never see "edited by . . ." on anyone else's posts other than your own. Just as no one else (apart from staff) will be able to see any "edited by . . ." notices on your posts.

Also if you come across posts that don't make sense, please report them. Staff make every effort to read every post and apply the same basic standards to all posts, but it is inevitable that some posts will slip through the net.

 

[Nicolette]

I've received a total of three warning,

Hi Orglethorp

I just checked and you have only ever received a new member notification and one grammar one.

 

[Changing4Best]

My mother had an English Masters in college, also I took 4 years of it in college, so I should know grammar pretty well, right? WRONG! There are still things I don't get right or am confused by. I don't get corrected often and I loved my mother and she me, so I guess it does not bother me. However, if it had been my father who had the English Masters and he'd been the one to correct me, I think I would resent it a whole lot. I think it depends upon what is a trigger. It probably would be a trigger if my dad had jumped on me about it a lot!

 

[Eleanor]

To be honest, yes. I already feel I can't be good enough at anything. English is like my 8th language and one of my worst. If the message had been specific maybe not so much... Well, maybe there is no room here for non natives. I am worrying as I write this that I am messing up again. So, yes, I think I better leave. ... Boy, I feel doomed. :(

Hang in there Anbe! Anyone who can learn 8 languages is not even a candidate for "not good enough" (if that was even a category!) You must be a quick study in reality (if not how you feel all the time..) And if you want specific feedback I'm sure the moderators will help - just ask on the help desk. This is a great place and if the fates have brought you here, there is probably good reason to stay.

You are not doomed. Not among friends. Not here. You are most welcome. Be brave.

 

[pinkbraclets]

I have yet to get a grammar notice, but I have only been here about a week.

The grammar rule prevented me from joining earlier, I have been lurking for about a year, but was scared to join as my mind and hands don't always work together to type what I think. I do feel paranoid every time I post, but often feel the world is out to get me anyway. I understand the reasoning and do appreciate it.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Now that I have learned what other forums are like, I am even more appreciative of the quality of the moderation here. Hmm, does that make sense? I am one of those who have difficulty reading long or confusing posts, so I appreciate it when something is drawn to my attention. After I freak out, of course, lol.

 

[KP the nut]

Please remember, none of us are (is) perfect. A warning is nothing more than a heads up - it is not and will never be personal.

I've just had a reminder about something I wrote, I was wrong, I corrected it - no big deal.