Does Anyone Feel Attacked When They Receive A Grammar Correction?

[Lady of Longbourn]

... There are a lot of posts I have been unable to get through on this and other forums because of the way they are written...

This is the biggest thing. Sometimes I come across posts that the grammar and editing is so horrendous that I do not read it, and so other people do not too. Then the thread creator gets no responses and they get angry ( seen this a lot).

Come on people, you want people to read your stories and problems and give good feedback, then make it readable. Otherwise people will misunderstand and you will get responses you were not expecting, and that is if you get any.

I am not attacking people who have responded to this thread. It's just a general rant of frustration. :D

 

[Jen93]

I've gotten so many notices the past week for my trauma diary and quoting and lists, I'm surprised my account hasn't been temporarily banned. I learned though- I use it as a learning process, and it's helpful to treat it as a correction rather than an attack. At least, that's what I find.

 

[Beverly G.]

I was reminded this week that PTSD comes with different symptoms and triggers for each person. While some of you may feel like rules are good and some may feel like they get in your way it is still good to remember that we are all here to support one another. That includes the moderators. They are here to ensure we all get what we need from the site and from one another. I hope I did not affend anyone by beginning this thread. It was meant only to find out if I was alone in my insecurities. I am grateful for everyone who posted and to discover that I am not as much of an odd bird as I feared.

 

[4real4now]

Lol this is what I needed to read today to pick up my spirits. I had a similar experience and thought I was going to have a stroke. I took afew minutes to relax and laughed at my grammar thread.

 

[Deleted member 16543]

This seems to be an on going issue with this forum, maybe the moderators can think of a solution for people that can not for some reason or another get it together enough to follow the rules as expected. I have posted other places about this, and as I stated there, sometimes people just can't see their errors no matter how hard they try for what ever reason, be it learning disabilities, where they are in their trauma, or under education.

 

[Elizabeth-Ann]

Those notices are very intimidating. I just try to obey the rules the best I can, and pray that I don't get another notice.

I am always scared that I'm going to get in trouble.

Sometimes I get very very tense when I sign-in because I think there might be a notice waiting for me in my in-box. But I haven't got one in a while.

I'm very thankful for the rules, and I wouldn't change a thing of the way it is! If you've ever been on other forums it's ridiculous. It's pure chaos.

I feel the same. Even though I understand perfectly well the rules. They help me myself to read and to understand better the posts for I am not a native speaker.

The fealing of danger when I received a message is awful. Even when I did not receive any more messages I almost completely stopped posting to avoid the tension.

I love this forum. It helps me a lot, but in my situation I am not able to fully participate. This is not because I do not want to agree to the rules or because I think they are "stupid", but just because I am not able. I try not to blame anyone. Waiting patiently till I feel more stable.

Reading posts is a big help already.Thank you all so much!

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi and welcome to the forum! It takes some time to learn your way around. On the home page are some excellent articles. And read all you can in the new member information.

The rules are in fairness to all. There is also a testing section to practice. I never felt attacked it was more the red alert. I requested they change it to pink and you can see how far I got. Tbe benefits of what I call the best place on the planet far outweigh getting a red alert. I wish you success on your journey. Whitney

 

[JustBe]

Actually, I found them strangely comforting. I got three my first week. I kind of felt like someone cared enough to help me settle in here. JMO.

 

[Privateer]

I feel annoyed at myself. I'm usually very fussy about grammar and finding out that I made a mistake and didn't spot it irritates me.

 

[Nadege]

I was excited when I first found this forum, but I barely post here because of the 'warnings' I began getting every time I posted. I was warned not to quote entire posts; got a warning which I did not understand what it was about after I posted a picture; then when I posted a link to an inspiration site I liked, I got a strange warning against "self-promotion" - no idea why, it was not my site...Even though my grammar requires no corrections - I'm a spelling policeman myself - I STILL ended up getting a warning after every post.

So, I refrain from posting here most of the time, just poke my nose in here only once in a while.

 

[BloomInWinter]

'Fear of people and especially authority figures will leave us....' is one of the promises for those of us working a program for adult children of alcoholic and other dysfunctional families. We grew up being criticised so much that it hits us as a criticism of our selves, even when it's no big deal and just a reminder to pay more attention.

I like being perfect as that's how I try to have a 'self' and when it's pointed out to me that I am not, I take it very hard.

Or, I used to. Sometimes, I'm fine with it now and can see that it's not personal, just the same for everyone.

 

[Abstract]

This was extremely hard for me for a few reasons.
I have always been a bit obsessive and an eating disorder, workaholism, body dysmorphia etc was part of that. I then worked very very hard at challenging and changing that. One of the main ways I worked on accepting myself being less perfect was to not obsess about grammar when I wrote or texted. Something I used to do a lot. It helped me so very much and I made such progress.

So when I came here and felt I had to obsess and panic again I found it really unhelpful for my general well being. I must add that I certainly was never one of those people to write reams without punctuation. I was just less careful in general.

I am far enough along in this part of my journey now that I can can come here more easily as I have possibly defeated this enough.

The other thing is that I am sure like many I had a very critical childhood where there was always something that I was doing wrong. That is fine in normal life and I am fine but this is relation to speaking about fearful stuff seems to open up a can of worms for me. I react totally differently when in a context of speaking about the past.

I respect that different things affect different people in different ways though and there is no reason why I would expect rules to change just because they happen to be unhelpful for me. It just did terrify the life out of me when I first came here and did give me the wrong impression of what PTSD Forum is about.

I am of course very grateful for the moderation and time spent so thank you.