Domestic Violence

[Marie E.]

I don't know what to say, but my Fiance grabbed my hair forcefully tonight and sexually assaulted me. I guess it is both that I needed to let this out and also let the people here I care about know. I guess I am having to learn from my mistake. I feel I let myself down. My ex-fiance and I both have PTSD. And though it may work with some, this one hasn't. So, I feel this is rather a guilty confession on my behalf. All that matter is that my children are safe. I was till tonight and since I been in DV situations, I can't just turn my back and I do have a place to live at still. I have contacted my relatives again. So, much court.

 

[Heather]

Marie - I am so, so, sorry that this happened to you. I am glad you recognize this for what it is: a violent situation that you need to remove yourself from. Some women don't and they continue to stay.

Be proud of yourself for recognizing that you needed to get out of there. I'm proud of you.

Hang in there. BIG HUGS. Much love. Heather (remember NO cutting)

 

[Marie E.]

Big hugs Heather!! He is in jail and I go to see him tomorrow in court, rather to talk to the judge first and than to go home, than it will be his turn. We are both on probation and well he is pretty f*cked!! I know I am abiding by my probation and the f*cked up thing is that I have been denying it, but he influenced me to leave my kids alone, though I went along with it. Reason that I have probation in the first place. I hate this court bs. Custody shit is still going on with my children.

P.S. No desire to cut myself, but to amazingly to pamper myself.

 

[Heather]

Marie -

Stay strong. I say pamper away girlfriend. YOU DESERVE IT.:) I'm glad he's in jail. That's exactly where he needs to be for what he did to you. I admire your strength and courage.

Take care of you. Hugs. Heather

 

[Marie E.]

Thank you so much Heather, that really brings tears of validation to my eyes! (((Big Hugs))) Linking Arms!!

Just packing as much as I need to survive for the week. Including this computer haha!! But, I got my precious children.

 

[Abrasky]

(((hugs Marie))). You are wonderful and recognised the dv straight away. I think that is great.

 

[ronin47]

Oh honey! What a horrible experience! I'm so sorry that happened to you, but so happy you felt like you could open up about that experience here. Thank the Lord he's in jail now, yes, court is no fun, but it's better than the alternative at this point. Kudos for getting yourself out of there. And no more violent relationships now ya' hear!?!

 

[Nicolette]

Marie you have turned a fundamental corner and I am happy to see that. While what happened is dreadful, with your actions now, you may never experience such things again as you finally realize and accept you and your children don't need it nor deserve it. You have reached those cross roads and I am pleased you are turning instead of continuing ahead.

Don't look back, turn that corner and NEVER EVER allow anyone to do that to you again - when you see the small signs again I bet you won't ignore or dismiss them any more. Time for the change and controlling what you can.... your life!

 

[intothelight]

(((Marie)))

I am so sorry you experienced this, but so proud of you for taking the right actions. I don't have much to add to what has been said above. You did the right thing!

Debbie

 

[The Albatross]

Hope you're doing okay Marie, establish a support system, find out what's available and I hope that whatever needs to happen to get you and your kids to a safe place happens quickly.

 

[anni]

I'm really sorry. I've been there too. Like Deb, there's not a lot to add except well done for all you've done and are doing. You're far ahead where I was, since you're healthy enough to go pamper yourself-do some good, nurturing self care. Thinking of you and the wonderful children, and if it's ok, lots of hugs.

With MUCH respect,

Anni

 

[KP the nut]

((((Marie))))
I also can't add to the above. I would like to say you did great and showed great courage in standing up for yourself and your children. You are an amazing person.

Pamper yourself (and your children) you all deserve it.
Sending love and strength
KP