amethist
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Last night I think I drew a line under a friendship I have had since my collage days, so almost 40 years now. We met at collage and have been through many things together, my divorce, her son being seriously ill and her own divorce.
I always rang her when things were bad for her, especially her messy divorce. Checking she was OK, being there as a long time friend should be. Hubby and I even set her up with a friend of his, who we also supported when he was going through a messy divorce. As far as we know they are still together, 5 years on.
So why end a friendship like this you may ask, simple, we have not seen either of them for the last 3 years.
The last time I saw her was just after her daughter got a place at university, and she came to tell us about it all.
I did try to explain that day how ill hubby was, but she was not listening to me at all, except to say as she left, "Call me if you need anything". Erm should it not be you calling me to check I am OK, after all that's what friends do, isn't it.
So apart form Christmas cards, that is the last we heard from her, or hubby's friend.
Until last night.
It was around 7pm, and we were half way through our evening meal, when the door bell rang. I answered it, (a bit miffed at my meal being disturbed), to see a lady stood there, who I did not recognize, then I twigged.
She handed me a bag saying I have brought your books back, I said thank you, which she then asked how I was, I just said fine thanks, and thanks for returning my books, Bye. I then just closed the door , without out the accusations that I had thought about over the last few months.
I now feel deflated, like I should have said more to her, should have said what I thought, should have not let it go without some kind of explanation.
Maybe write a letter and let it go to the universe instead.
I always rang her when things were bad for her, especially her messy divorce. Checking she was OK, being there as a long time friend should be. Hubby and I even set her up with a friend of his, who we also supported when he was going through a messy divorce. As far as we know they are still together, 5 years on.
So why end a friendship like this you may ask, simple, we have not seen either of them for the last 3 years.
The last time I saw her was just after her daughter got a place at university, and she came to tell us about it all.
I did try to explain that day how ill hubby was, but she was not listening to me at all, except to say as she left, "Call me if you need anything". Erm should it not be you calling me to check I am OK, after all that's what friends do, isn't it.
So apart form Christmas cards, that is the last we heard from her, or hubby's friend.
Until last night.
It was around 7pm, and we were half way through our evening meal, when the door bell rang. I answered it, (a bit miffed at my meal being disturbed), to see a lady stood there, who I did not recognize, then I twigged.
She handed me a bag saying I have brought your books back, I said thank you, which she then asked how I was, I just said fine thanks, and thanks for returning my books, Bye. I then just closed the door , without out the accusations that I had thought about over the last few months.
I now feel deflated, like I should have said more to her, should have said what I thought, should have not let it go without some kind of explanation.
Maybe write a letter and let it go to the universe instead.
