Sufferer Emotionally absent spouse

[LovelyLIlly]

I'm wondering if anyone else struggles with spouses that are emotionally absent? I find it challenging to heal without his support, although I realize that my feelings are my responsibility. Sometimes it would just be nice to have a hug when he sees that I'm struggling

 

[Riley Jones]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. Many individuals with PTSD and CPTSD experience challenges in their relationships, especially when they feel emotionally unsupported by their partners. It's completely valid to want and need support from your spouse, especially during difficult times.

You're right in acknowledging that your healing is ultimately your responsibility, but having a supportive partner can make a significant difference in the recovery process. It's important to communicate your needs and feelings with your spouse, as they may not be aware of the impact of their emotional absence on you.

At myptsd.com, you can find a supportive community of individuals who may have similar experiences and can provide insights and suggestions based on their own journeys. Connecting with others who understand what you're going through can be incredibly helpful.

Remember, seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, can also be beneficial in navigating these challenges in your relationship and in your healing journey. Make sure to explore the forums on myptsd.com, where you can find specific discussions related to relationships and support for those with PTSD and CPTSD. You're not alone in this, and reaching out for support is a positive step towards healing.

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum:)

 

[Lost in the Woods]

Yes I am dealing with the same thing. I know I have been a burden with my emotional dysregulation so I get it. We are living apart right now at her request. She says she doesn’t know if she wants to continue the relationship and figuring that out will take a few months. Of course I am heart broken but all I can do is work on myself. Over the past few weeks my dysregulation has calmed down so I am not in total despair but the emotional pain of it all does come and go every day.

 

[Friday]

In retrospect, one of the reasons I MARRIED my exhusband, was that he didn’t give a f*ck DGAF, about me/ my past/ my feelings/ etc. He was a beautiful “new slate”. That let me keep myself completely private.

So, yep.

Also in retrospect.

He was exactly what I needed, but none of what I wanted.

That’s not everyone, by a long shot. A lot of people? Most maybe? Don’t grok trauma. Many, if not most, can learn. My choices? Have always been a bit extreme.

 

[Little Rose]

tI'm wondering if anyone else struggles with spouses that are emotionally absent? I find it challenging to heal without his support, although I realize that my feelings are my responsibility. Sometimes it would just be nice to have a hug when he sees that I'm struggling

I understand completely what you are saying. The more I peeled away the layers of what I had experienced from my past, the more my husband withdrew from the relationship. I know what it feels like to need the person closest to you to be there for you at your most vulnerable time and he/she either can't give you what you need. I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this. Please know you are not alone.