Emotionally cheating

[Punky143]

I've been married for 21 years and it's had its ups and downs but who doesn't.
For the 3rd time that I know of, my husband has been texting another lady and receiving and/or sending pictures. He left his phone on the counter to go do something and I couldn't resist the urge to read the texts. I already knew something was going on based on the fact I pay the cell bill and kept seeing the same number over and over. When reading the texts, it's as if he was a totally different person. Most of not all are sexual in nature. I've found charges on my bank statement that coincide with the texts. I go from wanting to pretend it's not happening, hating myself for not being enough to questioning if I should end the marriage. But the thought of being alone feels terrible and the process of going through with it unmanageable. To me, marriage is serious and not something to just give up on. But how many times do I allow this to happen and not be bothered. I'm confused, sad and have no idea what to do. It would completely turn everyone's world upside down, all because of me.

 

[Jade-]

I suppose it's gonna keep happening as many times as you allow it to.

Only you know what you can tolerate and what you should do. I hope ypu choose what you think is best,

 

[Movingforward10]

It would completely turn everyone's world upside down, all because of me.

Because of you? Or because of his behaviour?

Have you spoken to him about it?

 

[Dark.Green.Feathers]

Ultimately, it’s your decision wether you stay with him, or break things off (either physically or maritally), but it doesn’t seem like a heat of the moment regret. I’d vouch for speaking to him about it.

Some marriages recover from one spouse cheating, some don’t. All depends on wether both parties agree or not, on the wrongness of the act and if they want to stay.