Sufferer Adult child of emotionally immature mother

[Ronnierose]

I'm brand new to this forum but already can tell the camaraderie here may be the extra support I need. My new therapist recommended I read, "Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents", and "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma". The first book describes my mom and husband perfectly, while the second describes my life story from childhood until now (I'm 60). They validated, for the first time in decades, my feelings of loneliness, betrayal, rejection, and abandonment I've experienced my entire life. My husband has just carried on what my mom has done. I was also the scapegoat of 5 daughters, with one of my sisters being the favorite. My sisters rallied behind my mom, and to this day, I don't have a relationship with them. The books made me feel like I never had a chance at having a life without constant struggles. My therapist warned me to take the second book a little at a time, since it's pretty intense. She wasn't kidding! Thank you all for sharing and letting me know there are more "Ronnie's" out there!

 

[Dark.Green.Feathers]

A lot of us fell into some kind of regulatory role for our parent(s) in some way or another. Welcome aboard

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum, Ronnie:)

 

[arfie]

hello ronnie. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

regretfully, you are far from alone. i was the fifth of eleven siblings and cast as, "the family savior," aka, the altar of unrealistic expectations. i ran like a proverbial bat out of hell and have managed to quit running, but still maintain safe social distances from that pedestal. the family savior role is no more productive or realistic than the family scapegoat.

through the long and winding recovery which has ensued, peer support has been my most consistent lifeline. this very forum is one of the nodes on my peer support network. i like to maintain a network rather than a single node for the sake of broader coverage and perspective.

welcome aboard. i hope you find stabilizing companionship here.

 

[Starfish]

I'm brand new to this forum but already can tell the camaraderie here may be the extra support I need. My new therapist recommended I read, "Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents", and "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma". The first book describes my mom and husband perfectly, while the second describes my life story from childhood until now (I'm 60). They validated, for the first time in decades, my feelings of loneliness, betrayal, rejection, and abandonment I've experienced my entire life. My husband has just carried on what my mom has done. I was also the scapegoat of 5 daughters, with one of my sisters being the favorite. My sisters rallied behind my mom, and to this day, I don't have a relationship with them. The books made me feel like I never had a chance at having a life without constant struggles. My therapist warned me to take the second book a little at a time, since it's pretty intense. She wasn't kidding! Thank you all for sharing and letting me know there are more "Ronnie's" out there!

Pete Walkers book(thriving/surviving) has been my "Bible" for about 10 years now (I'm 71). I have the audio and the book. I used to fall asleep listening and the book is underlined throughout. The feelings you have had throughout your life mirror mine. I was CPTSD diagnosed at about age 60 also. Most of the time I have not been on meds.....on and off a few times.

Last year I tried meds again after coping with all those hard thoughts and feelings and working my way through them. Last year, I searched this forum for some med suggestions. I believe the meds are helping my mind process better and am able to get some things done. It is moment by moment ....learning to take care of myself.....

Welcome and Good Luck Ronnierose

 

[Susan Jane]

Thank you all for sharing and letting me know there are more "Ronnie's" out there!

Welcome to the forum, you are not alone Ronnie. Good to have you here!