End Of Relationship

[RosieNorth]

For the past 5 months I've been dating a guy, not too serious, once a week but he calls less and less. When we're together though it's wonderfull. Today however I received an email pretty much ending our relationship. He's the first guy I've dated and/or been married to (and there have been quite a few) that I was attracted to, he was nice to me and not abusive.

I wonder if after so much violence in my life, even after years of therapy I will never get a nice man to love me and I feel so abandoned.


Last night my ex-husband told me I wasn't allowed to see our children again. He's angry because I've found a way to get him to pay for the things that the court ordered him to pay.

Although my kids are pretty much grown and have told me that they are not going to listen to him, they still stay in the family home with him because I couldn't afford to keep it.

Life is really getting to me and I can hardly keep going, I feel so alone.
Thanks for reading this, I hope it doesn't sound like I'm feeling sorry for myself.

 

[ProudWife99]

I'm sorry to hear you're hurting and that your ex is being such a jerk. It is truly unfair to you.

Supporting someone with PTSD is a tough job and try to trust me when I say, if he got out because it wasn't something he could handle he absolutely did what was best for both of you.

I know that does not ease the hurt much right now, but things do get better. After every nasty relationship I seemed to always end up in one that was worse to the one before it. When I finally ended the most abusive one, I truly began to focus and heal myself. I took time for me, nurtured myself, and set a standard for what I was worth. Then I met my husband and things were truly different.

Take care and look after yourself RosieNorth. Remember, you are not alone. I'm listening, and I care.

 

[mamachick]

I am sorry you are going through all of this. Break ups are hard, and a jerk on the other end is just salt in a wound. Im glad your children can decide for themselves.

I so agree with proud wife. There are so many kinds of abuse and different patterns, I think I have had my variety and now its truley time for me. I am just working on myself and trying to get better.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Hi I am sorry you are going through such a painful experience. You do not sound like you are feeling sorry for yourself. You are going through something very hard, I wish you the best in whatever you decide. You have some tough decisions to make. I am sorry your ex is being such a jerk. You don't need that. Hugs.