Unhealthy Relationship with Dad

[Ch!lD0fGod]

So, I went to grab my stuff from where I lived previously and my dad pulls up. He proceeds to approach my car (which is fine). If he wanted to talk, whatever. What was not fine, is how he demanded to see my car radio (he insists upon getting me one from a scrapyard). Anyhow. He reached his hand into my car through the window without asking first! I firmly told him "No." Twice. He left a voicemail on my phone. Honestly, I may just delete it cause I don't have time and energy to deal with the guilt trip, "Why did you react like that, I was only trying to help!" Well, I know better what emotional abuse looks like so I call bullshit. Plus. I told him awhile back, that I am perfectly fine with YouTube music or Klove radio app on my phone to listen to my music.

 

[Sideways]

In isolation, and without context, this sounds like a situation where your reactivity is disproportionate. Do you have ptsd, or a history of abuse from your dad?

 

[arfie]

i have several similar nuts in my family tree. i love having family, but it is a booger bear when the nuts hit you over the head. i use visualization to get me through encounters through. e.g. when i the emotional storm begins, i visualize an umbrella between myself and the storm. there isn't much sense in arguing with a storm. just take shelter and wait it out.

arguing with a fool only proves there are two fools. ~chinese proverb