Ex With Ptsd Broke Up With Me, I Don't Know What To Do..

[Glitterbunny23]

I met my ex who suffers with combat ptsd over a year ago and it took us 9 months to officially start a relationship, I found out in the first month that he had been having text sex with another girl which lead to me having trust issues with him. After that he took the relationship a bit more seriously but he never truly let me in, he'd never tell me how his ptsd affects him, I had to research it to have some clue. We were in a relationship for 5 months but he has ended it because he said he physically cannot do it anymore because relationships cause him too much stress and anxiety, he had cut me out of his life but he said to me today that he doesn't want anyone to care about him and once his son has grown up he can stop wasting everyone's time when he's in the ground. The thing is though he's having a really bad time at the moment and I really feel like he's pushed me away when actually he just needs support and love. He won't go and get professional help.
We did have fun together and I do want to be with him, I wish he would let me in and let me help him. I'm not sure whether he just needs space or if he is definitely done with our relationship? I know you aren't going to know either but I'm so worried about him and I have no clue how best to approach things. Maybe if he truly wants to be alone then I should walk away? Do ptsd suffers ever say these things without truly meaning it to have a little space? Is there any chance he will change his mind?

 

[vivaladawn]

I feel your pain hun. I dated my sufferer for a year before I realized he had dating websites. It hurts like crazy. He has left the relationship twice for the same reasons your man has stated. We currently are not together. It is best to give them the space they ask for. I know it can be insanely difficult and frustrating. However, they will push you away the more you engage them. Treat this like a breakup: focus on making yourself happy, distract yourself, try to move forward and don't think about him. If it was truly meant to be he will come back around and engage you. Please don't hang out by the phone for that day though, it is no way to live and no one deserves that. I'm sorry this is happening to you, it is a very difficult situation to be in.