Experiences With Bullying

[fresh_start]

Hi everyone,
I read the "Constant Victims" thread and was wondering how many survivors were victimized in school as well by bullies, or bullied years prior to your experiences. In elementary school, I was very shy and quiet which left me open as a target. How many of you experienced bullying in school or the workplace? Do you think that perhaps that experience may have left you open to later victimization? I was watching 48 hours yesterday about bullying in school and it made me wonder how many of those kids experience abuse later on in life or even in their home lives as children. Maybe there is a connection? Anyways...it was just a thought.

 

[Lucycat]

I was bullied in school, but that was during my time of being abused at home, not before.

 

[Poppy1224]

I was bullied in school (unfounded accusations about my 'promiscuity' and mental health) consistently for a few months before the actual incident, and I think it certainly had an impact. its the idea of other people declaring your worth, and you're 17, and you believe everything they say. so, speaking for myself, I think there absolutely was a connection.

<Edited by Brucielucy>

 

[fresh_start]

It would definitely depend on the individual as to what the effect later on would have been. I just know in my own case that it did have an impact on how I valued myself prior to my experience. The bullying led to very low self-esteem, which caused me to be less cautious when looking for love and approval. Brucielucy, that's horrible you experienced both the bullying and the abuse at home at the same time. :(

 

[Jen]

Yes I was also bullied at school. Around the age of 13/14, a friend of mine stayed over at my house and I had confided in her that I was being abused by my brother. She then told pretty much everyone in my school that I was sleeping with my brother and then the bullying started. Everyone thought I was doing this voluntarily. It was pretty awful.

Children can be cruel x

 

[jadebear]

I was bullied for awhile in school. Every day, by the same girl. It caused me to snap or something, and I finally turned it around on her and I became the bully and she became afraid of me.

I liked being a bully. I was able to take all of my anger and frustration on others. The sad thing is sometimes I'm still one at times.

 

[Tarot]

Bullied all my life-- by adults and children alike.

I really have grown to hate the human race because of it.

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[Lsquaredw]

I was bullied in kindergarten by a boy that just last year died in a car accident. (Ironic? Maybe.) I do not think that the bullying had anything to do with my abuse. I was well liked in school and was friends with just about everyone. I think it all depends on how your life pans out.

 

[Ice_Fire]

I was bullied throughout first and middle school. It stopped once I got to my current school, I made friends and went to cadets. But all the time I was abused I was bullied as well. I guess I had 'easy target' stamped on my forehead :rolleyes:

 

[NDKnight]

I remember that when the high school football team were frustrated, they would hunt me down and beat me unconscious. The reason for that was I would never give up, even when I was losing *98%* of the time.
I finally got kicked out of school for too many sick days.