Facebook Question

[Tanishq]

I have been moving on from some community and it was related with personal development.

Recently got some friendship requests and I noticed I don't know them, but saw they are in my friend circle. I thought I will get to know them and it will be good conversations. Later I knew they have recently joined the community I have been away from previous community. Perhaps they saw my name there and thought to add me here.

I said them hi and tried to converse with them. No reply first time. My intention was to get their introduction. So I felt their intention is not to talk with me, just have friendship. :laugh:I felt embarrassed being ignored. I saw no meaning in keeping them. If you don't talk with each other how can you know each other?

I don't understand with this thing. They added me and they don't want to talk with me, but wants to keep me in their list. This person talks with others. What does this mean? Doesn't it sound meaningless?

 

[safenow]

What does this mean? Doesn't it sound meaningless?

Jaret, It is an automatic thing. IT is the program, Facebook that generates those requests. The people they list probably didn't even extend that friendship invitation. Anther reason I stopped going to that place.

 

[Tanishq]

I noticed it was not automated generated requests. They were done by them.

 

[ISupportHer]

Of course, I have had the same happen to me. Requests that I am not sure about. Perhaps even someone from the forum but I won't respond unless I know who they are here.

 

[Tanishq]

It's crazy thing to add someone you don't know. It sounds more mindless decision to add the person where you both don't know or never chatted before.

 

[Lucycat]

I have friends on facebook that I DO know - but even if they send me a chatty message I might not see it for days. then I decide if I have the time and inclination to reply.

I enjoy using Facebook - but on my terms. I would not respond to demands for a conversation, nor would I accept a friend request if I did not know who it came from.

I think you need to exercise extreme caution. As others have said, you can receive messages that appear to come from people but the FACEBOOK machine sends then so that they look like humans have sent them.

 

[DharmaGirl]

A lot of people add people they don't know because they play the games, and you have to have a certain amount of friends at each level to progress.

 

[CraftyCath]

That's true Monster but it is also about getting more 'friends' than other people so you look more popular. I do not add people I do not know and don't give two hoots about how many friends I have on there..

I just like to stay in touch.

 

[NarcSis]

CraftyCath and Monster1977 have said it all - popularity competitions based on the numbers of friends you have are common. I don't accept friend requests unless I've actually spoken to the person in real life. I routinely sweep my lists of people who no longer interact with me and I don't play meaningless games.

Your Facebook friendships are completely under your control, you can add and subtract as you see fit, it's completely superficial.

 

[Britt.f7]

Yeah I have a limited amount of friends. I don't know if I would friend someone here, simply because I want to keep this place separate. Not many people know I go here and I don't want them to. I want this to remain my safe place. Does this make sense? I figure I can talk to everyone here on this site. Selfish? Perhaps.

I use to play those games but hated that they kept asking you to get more people to play. Not everyone who is on facebook wants to play games and I find it intruding. I now just help out my friends.

 

[Orglethorp]

The only time I add/accept friends on facebook who I don't already know is when they're someone I should be getting to know because we are in the same circles in real life. For example, I'm in a very specific structured degree program (engineering), and there's a facebook group for engineering student at my university planning to graduate in the same year. Even if I haven't actually shook hands and exchanged introductions with all of these people, at some point in the next year I will, and it's likely we'll need contact info on each other in the near future.

 

[Tanishq]

you have to have a certain amount of friends at each level to progress.

I don't play games there. I didn't know this. Facebook place sounds tricky to me.

That's true Monster but it is also about getting more 'friends' than other people so you look more popular.

CraftyCath, this thought. :laugh::hilarious:

I just like to stay in touch.

Me,too. Staying in touch keeps things good and healthy.

I routinely sweep my lists of people who no longer interact with me and I don't play meaningless games.

This is what I am doing. Some people have stopped contacting me. Yesterday I found that disconnected friendship with them. I am not sure they want to keep me as their friend or acquaintance. It is common sense, if you stop conversing with people you can never come to know them. But this people, oh. From different planet. Not to mention they have style to ignore others.

Does this make sense? I figure I can talk to everyone here on this site. Selfish? Perhaps.

Yes. Britt, you fit in here very nicely. So you can talk with everyone.

I now just help out my friends.

So kind of you. :)

it's likely we'll need contact info on each other in the near future.

Orglethorp, this person who recently added me talks with my other friends and I saw they like other friends wall post and not just mine. It sounded they are determined not to talk with me. I find it meaningless to keep them in friend circle. I am not an object their showcase.

Thank you everyone for helping me out. I am feeling relieved and knowledgeable(not sure this is right word I put, mods please do let me know) about some new tricks from them. I will be aware of them and will stay away from bad or unhealthy connections.