General Finding things tough today

[anon1234]

Isolation is tough today and I’m feeling really melodramatic. Ugh. Rather than send him some ridiculously long and over the top text, I’m coming in here to say hi. I start a course for partners of combat vets on Wednesday but what does it matter if it’s just crickets. I’m trying. Just need to keep breathing. I can get through this.

 

[littleoc]

Yes, you can :hug:

 

[G.P.]

Where did you find a course for partners of combat veterans?

 

[Friday]

@G.P. In the US both the VA & VetCenters offer them.

Location determines a lot of what is available. For example San Diego has a Sex & Intimacy clinic (more about that here Young vets: Trouble in the bedroom ), meanwhile other locations offer other things.

To find out what’s local to you (or worth flying for) I’d start here Partners of Veterans with PTSD - PTSD: National Center for PTSD

A lot of the VA is only for post-9/11 vets. If yours is prior to that, VetCenters operate on an entirely different scheme // all combat veterans, regardless of when/where & all MST.

 

[Orchid1818]

anon1234 if he hasn't said the words "its over" you still can work on it. Mine just broke up with me. I really love him. Sometimes im just going about my day and i feel the wind knocked out of me from missing him. My heart aches.

 

[anon1234]

NAMI homefront is a course I would recommend to anyone who is involved with a combat vet @G.P.
It’s free and it’s an online classroom.

Oh @Orchid1818 I am so sorry to hear that. :( hugs if if you accept them.

Thank you so much @littleoc Your support means a lot. I got that little ping about your reply when I was out and about doing my errands and it made me smile when I read it

 

[Never_falter2]

Off topic, I wondered what “a course for girlfriends if Combat veterans on Wednesday“ is and how combat veteran on Wednesday is different from a combat veteran on any other day of the week... was about to ask when I realized you where starting the course on Wednesday. Sorry for the silly comment. English is not my native language.

 

[Orchid1818]

@anon1234 thank you for the virtual hugs.

 

[Orangesfrompears]

Hey... you’re not alone in these feelings. It’s good that you made the decision to post here rather than writing g a long msg to him that might go unanswered or be met with a negative response. Best thing you can do. Are you also focusing on doing good things for you? Like yoga or coffee with friends or music or something you used to love doing? You can only look after you right now, probably he needs you to be ok and it sounds like you need yourself to be ok!

 

[anon1234]

@Orangesfrompears thanks so much for your message :) I am actually doing really well and am now in a positive place. It helps that he did contact me yesterday to explain why he is isolating - basically the whole message seemed to be straight out of @Freida ’s thread “What are they thinking”

I will admit that I do sometimes get thoughts like - what if this is the last time I saw him - but I don’t think it’s the case to be honest. We do have a long history together. I appreciated that he broke the silence to explain the situation. It doesn’t make it easier because there is no clear path forward but I just let him know I was here. I also understand it may have been challenging to even put what was going on into words so I have to acknowledge that effort could have been quite considerable.

 

[Freida]

I also understand it may have been challenging to even put what was going on into words so I have to acknowledge that effort could have been quite considerable.

Thank you for knowing this. :hug:

 

[anon1234]

And thanks for all you do here @Freida
It’s made the biggest difference to how I approach things.