First Steps Towards Rebuilding A Life. Will It Work?

[Loloma]

It has taken me ages, but I finally joined the gym in the next village. No more excuses I hope?

This may not seems like much to many, for me it's a big thing. Can't believe I put on over 30 kilo's over the last 10 or so years. Unhappiness, neglect and sadness makes you EAT, EAT, EAT. It for comfort and it tastes good, feel good and sometimes it's the only pleasure you get out of your miserable life.

Except for the consequences. My health declined, my husband found me disgusting (even though he didn't use the words). I knew because he wouldn't touch me anymore. So what did I do in response; EAT, EAT, EAT. Finally we separated and he told me he didn't find me sexually attractive.

If I use a bread plate instead of a dinner plate that should work, shouldn't it?

If I stick at this will I regain my self esteem back? Will I feel better about myself? Will I begin to socialize again, and leave the house more? Will I stop feeling so sad and lonely?

Any suggestions or help would be appreciated.....

 

[Srain]

(((((((Hugs)))))))))))

These are the hardest steps. My husband and I are going through a rough stage ourselves.

1. The bread plate...yes, it will work....reality, plates have enlarged over the past 20yrs so smaller plates = smaller portions, we eat with our eyes ;)

2. Getting out to the gym and socializing = self-esteem, absolutely!! I find that when others enjoy my company, I enjoy it, my husband seems to as well and if he is having a rough day I don't take it personally. Even if you get a neighborhood walk team together, how ever you do it is fine! It's yours!

3. Keep coming here, we get it! You count!

peace,
Rain

 

[Loloma]

Thanks rain, appreciate it.

At least I've stopped thinking that at won't live long so why bother. I used to a "dish" once, now I look like a dish cloth.

< It is not necessary to quote the post directly above your reply. Thanks Amethist >

 

[Srain]

I doubt it!!! I would also check out changing out the clothes you wear, if you can't afford it check out thrift stores and sales...I bought some really nice stuff "I LIKED" that made me feel good :) Do stuff to make YOU feel good. Wear toe nail polish...lipstick...a braid ....something just for you ;)

 

[Loloma]

Like the nail polish, have it but forget to put in on. Bought a new coat on Saturday with my girlfriend, she made me get two sizes smaller instead of the XL I went for. And it fitted perfectly. Good to have a good friend to look after me.

Thanks for your advise..:tup:

 

[Loloma]

Still can't believe that I went from a child with chronic malnutrition, to a Miss Piggy. What the hell happened to my body???? :cry:

 

[Sterre]

Whiiiioe for going to the gym and socializing Loloma!:tup:

No matter how you look, no matter your size, you are worthy Loloma!
Being big or small, pretty or not pretty, you.are.worthy.!!!!!
YOU.ARE.WORTHY!

 

[Loloma]

Thanks sterre,

Second day at the gym today

 

[AngelaMarie]

I was always very skinny and now I am overweight. I am trying to be realistic and take it a little at a time. It's hard for me to exercise because of health problems, so I have to give myself time to lose some. Also, I have finally accepted the fact that I am never going to be thin again. Now for me it's more about just keeping it under control for health issues. I am learning that no matter what size I am that I am a good person and a good mother and that is what's important!

I wish you luck with your new path!:)

 

[Srain]

yeah!!! 2 days!!!

 

[maddog]

Good on ya Loloma, this is fantastic news, a huge step and something you should feel rightly proud of!

Absolutely anything that gives you purpose and motivation and makes you feel even just a little bit better about yourself is a good thing. As others have said, this is not about becoming a better or more worthwhile person, because those qualities live *inside* of a body of any size, and that's probably the most important thing to remember!

But if it works for your head, then it works, and in my own experience, getting fitter and being active can work wonders for your sense of self confidence and general feelings of good will and motivation.

Way to go!

Maddog

 

[Loloma]

AngelaMarie,
Keeping the health issues under control is very important....
I can't accept my size, even though I know I'm also a good person. It plays a major part in my depression and low self esteem.My not quite ex husband, wouldn't touch me for over ten years because of my weight. Now's he has some tall slim woman that he met of the internet. I'm loosing weight for me, which in turn I believe will help me with my diabetes and other health problems.

Thank you for your kind wishes :)