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I lost a 25 year friendship because she wanted it for her. She's barely contacted me lately which means a) the boyfriend is back or b) she got what she wanted. I predicted this too, and it's not the first time although the last time was decades ago.
Omg, I need to re-watch that.For those thinking this copying behavior is minor, flattering, and/or a problem of the OP, go watch Single White Female.
She aknowledged, actually pointed out, to me how this person has form for this...but she took her side. I had recently told them about my issues (vulnerable, yet outwardly strong) so that was that. They can skip off into the sunset. I'Lloyd never send another olive branch because they've 80% of the time been rejected and then they get an even higher ground, and ego. Done with people. I've hundreds of acquaintances and no real friends, or ever had, upon reflection. Off to watch Single White Female :/ EvaCan you get in touch with the longstanding relationship that ended bc of her involvement and work on rebuilding it?
I think the trauma part is a) wanting to be invisible/ off the radar/ no attention , and b) knowing why would anyone want to copy the end product, or a current state, of pain? Many of us don't want to be ourselves, at least with ptsd! :(
FWIW, it's been my experience when someone 'gets' what they think someone else likes or has, they never want it. Since it was what someone else loved, but not really them. I've watched family members buy 1/2 dozen cars and toys and 3 pets and 3 homes in different locations, in less years than that, based on what another relative says she 'likes'! :confused: Of course, left with it- they no longer want it/ them.
I should have added @Bry , I would forget about it if you can, unless it's a question of safety or just too creepy and stresses you out. The overwhelming sense of unsafety is probably trauma-influenced.
Nothing seems to change it, re: family, nor compassion they're treated with. And once I remember a woman doing it with an abusive guy with me, wow I thought, if only you knew. :( It didn't bother me because I left the next day. On a funny note, the relative and I said she should post a picture of anything she wants to the trauma part is a) wanting to be invisible/ off the radar/ no attention , and b) knowing why would anyone want to copy the end product, or a current state, of pain? Many of us don't want to be ourselves, at least with ptsd! :(
FWIW, it's been my experience when someone 'gets' what they think someone else likes or has, they never want it. Since it was what someone else loved, but not really them. I've watched family members buy 1/2 dozen cars and toys and 3 pets and 3 homes in different locations, in less years than that, based on what another relative says she 'likes'! :confused: Of course, left with it- they no longer want it/ them.
I should have added @Bry , I would forget about it if you can, unless it's a question of safety or just too creepy and stresses you out. The overwhelming sense of unsafety is probably trauma-influenced.
Nothing seems to change it, re: family, nor compassion they're treated with. And once I remember a woman doing it with an abusive guy with me, wow I thought, if only you knew. :( It didn't bother me because I left the next day. On a funny note, the relative and I said she should post a picture of anything she wants to sell or get rid of, and say 'I wish I could get one of these', and she'd sell it no problem! ;):)
I have no doubt that she will read this but it won’t click that it is her.