Relationship Girlfriend Has Ptsd

[Josh4757]

@Lucycat As a boyfriend, what is the best way I can go about one of my girlfriend's flare ups?

 

[Lucycat]

Sorry @Josh4757 but as I don't know either you or your girlfriend the only advice I can offer is talk to her. Ask her what you both need to do at these times.

 

[blackswan]

Hey @Josh4757, it sounds like you're on a good path :)

It's scary, sometimes you'll do the wrong thing, sometimes she'll do the wrong thing, sometimes you'll want to leave, sometimes she'll want to leave, sometimes things will feel REALLY awful... so it's pretty much exactly like a relationship without PTSD in the mix. I honestly find my current relationship (with a man who happens to have PTSD) to be infinitely more straightforward and wonderful than my last (with a man who happens to be a-emotional and selfish), which is why I'm in it. The need for emotional support and self-care seem to be higher in my current relationship, but really those are things we should do anyway. I just know that they're necessities and not optional fun extras any more.

You'll learn how to handle things together :) whether as friends or partners. Deciding that you want to is the main thing.