ashdawn8287
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First, My grandfather suffered from anxiety a lot, he never showed it though. He came from nothing and made millions. He said his motivation was so he could take care of his family and future generations. He mainly went around and traveled around my country and other countries through out his life. Back in the 50s and 60s he went around defending equal work opportunities in the work force at a very popular insurance company he was high up in. He is religious, kind, very intelligent, smart, insightful, and has one of the biggest hearts I have ever known of. He is a very giving and self less man and helped tons of people through out his life because in his words, "He was able to do so." A very charitable man. He adopted disadvantaged children, helped disadvantage children in other countries. He is my hero.
Throughout my childhood and adult life he was my biggest support. I would not be who I am or what I am today if it wasn't for him. Education was big to him and I LOVE learning. Honesty was a big thing to him. Being loyal and faithful too. He is a rare gem and I am SO thankful I had at least one person who was a positive influence in my life and for this long. I was the closest one to him and the only one who visits him and helps him.
Last year, he got diagnosed with Alzheimers. My uncle became power of attorney. My uncle is a *ick and controlling ***hole. He has not followed out any of my grandfathers wishes, which my grandfather sat down and talked to me about as far as finances go and what will happen when my uncle became power of attorney. Things were SUPPOSED to stay the same, they didn't and haven't.
My uncle is spending my grandpas money. He quit his job. Isolates my grandfather as in he cut of his telephone so nobody can get a hold of him. Before, I had a key to my grandfathers house and would come and go as a please because it was my second home. Now I have to ask my uncle if I can visit him. He has two care takers at his house. One of who I love dearly and she knows how unfair things have been and how things are not going the way my grandfather wanted BUT she stays out of it which I don't blame her. The other I have walked in and heard her screaming at my grandfather. She is rude, mean, and not even licensed. I don't know what the hell my uncle hired her.
I talked to my therapist at the YWCA as I am in a strong enough place to fight for my grandfathers wishes. I do not tell my grandfather anything and he still thinks he is financially supporting me, my sister, and my parents, but he is not. He has no idea that all of our lifestyles have changed this past year. I don't want to upset him so I just go along with it.
The YWCA told me to report my uncle and the care taker. So I did. I do not care about the money I am not motivated by money at all. I am not some spoiled brat. I give and am like my grandfather in a lot of ways. I volunteer, go to church, blah blah blah. I would give the back off my shirt to someone less off than me.
What I care about is my grandfathers wishes and that is what I told social services.
My grandfather sat me down before all this and discussed his will with me too. So I am going to contest his will after he dies.
I do not trust my uncle. They have taken several vacations this past year, he quit his job, they are advertising on the radio, they bought a farm, animals, everything. Yet my uncle told me he could not pay my last months rent before I was kicked out because he didn't have money and neither did my grandpa. Which I know is a lie because my grandfather trusted me with financial information like that. I helped him pay his bills, run errands, I did everything for him like the past 5 years. Nobody else did.
So I feel bad for reporting a family member but everyone around me and who knows this story has told me this needs to be done.
The YWCA
Throughout my childhood and adult life he was my biggest support. I would not be who I am or what I am today if it wasn't for him. Education was big to him and I LOVE learning. Honesty was a big thing to him. Being loyal and faithful too. He is a rare gem and I am SO thankful I had at least one person who was a positive influence in my life and for this long. I was the closest one to him and the only one who visits him and helps him.
Last year, he got diagnosed with Alzheimers. My uncle became power of attorney. My uncle is a *ick and controlling ***hole. He has not followed out any of my grandfathers wishes, which my grandfather sat down and talked to me about as far as finances go and what will happen when my uncle became power of attorney. Things were SUPPOSED to stay the same, they didn't and haven't.
My uncle is spending my grandpas money. He quit his job. Isolates my grandfather as in he cut of his telephone so nobody can get a hold of him. Before, I had a key to my grandfathers house and would come and go as a please because it was my second home. Now I have to ask my uncle if I can visit him. He has two care takers at his house. One of who I love dearly and she knows how unfair things have been and how things are not going the way my grandfather wanted BUT she stays out of it which I don't blame her. The other I have walked in and heard her screaming at my grandfather. She is rude, mean, and not even licensed. I don't know what the hell my uncle hired her.
I talked to my therapist at the YWCA as I am in a strong enough place to fight for my grandfathers wishes. I do not tell my grandfather anything and he still thinks he is financially supporting me, my sister, and my parents, but he is not. He has no idea that all of our lifestyles have changed this past year. I don't want to upset him so I just go along with it.
The YWCA told me to report my uncle and the care taker. So I did. I do not care about the money I am not motivated by money at all. I am not some spoiled brat. I give and am like my grandfather in a lot of ways. I volunteer, go to church, blah blah blah. I would give the back off my shirt to someone less off than me.
What I care about is my grandfathers wishes and that is what I told social services.
My grandfather sat me down before all this and discussed his will with me too. So I am going to contest his will after he dies.
I do not trust my uncle. They have taken several vacations this past year, he quit his job, they are advertising on the radio, they bought a farm, animals, everything. Yet my uncle told me he could not pay my last months rent before I was kicked out because he didn't have money and neither did my grandpa. Which I know is a lie because my grandfather trusted me with financial information like that. I helped him pay his bills, run errands, I did everything for him like the past 5 years. Nobody else did.
So I feel bad for reporting a family member but everyone around me and who knows this story has told me this needs to be done.
The YWCA
