Hanging Onto The Positive Things In Spite Of And No Matter What

[Deleted member 12723]

I have had a life changing experience. The information went from my head into my heart where it can do some good. I am having some good results.

I am becoming aware of how negative I was. I am very aware now in everything I think. I am having a hard time putting this into words.

For instance I hate taking out the trash. I have to walk with the trash to the trash dumpsters. Now before I moved I hated taking out the trash too. It is a little bit longer of a walk. I had a big dread. I had to do it tonight. I am always glad once it is all over.

But I have dreads with other little jobs too. So I am trying to be positive about doing it. I am trying to keep it positve in spite of how I feel and no matter what is going on.

What kinds of things help you turn negatives into positives. I am looking for ideas. I am dumb with the ptsd and things just do not occur to me. I need alot of help. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Im with you. Just today, i received a message that there is nothing wrong with me. The problem is in my perception. My perception blocks me from growing beyond. Reading this thread confirmed this message I received after crying all day. I wanna learn how to take out the trash too. And I really hope you werent talking about actual physical trash because I will feel absolutely silly lolol

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Well of course you are talking about actual trash but you were using it as an example to illustrate a deeper point? I hope....

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Yes I was feeling dread about doing the normal day to day things. I had some success this morning and I did not have the big dread over the morning chores I had to do. Each day is getting better and better for me. I am reframing everything. I had no idea how skewed my perception of things had gotten. I wish you the best of luck on going positive too.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Thanks Gizmo for posting this....

 

[goingonhope]

For you Gizmo, as you're such a wonderful contribution to the world. :)

Sending :hug: Hugs & :inlove: Luv, ...and will need to both pray, as well as, wish for more joy and peace ahead for you!

 

[CraftyCath]

Well done Gizmo, you have made huge progress.

I too used to be very negative and would believe all the negative things that were said about me. Now I can truly see the person I am and have learnt to love myself and accept myself and it had been life changing.

I had surrounded myself with negative, controlling people and had to cut relationships to a few of them and I am much more aware of the negativity in others.

I still have to fight with the negativity some days but I a much more positive outlook on life.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

(((((Hope))))) thank you so much for you being you. What a difference you have made in my life. I so appreciated what kind things you said. I will hold them to my heart. Big hugs.

(((((cath))))))You are amazing. You have taught me so much. You are always so upbeat and positive. You have made a difference in my life. Thanks for the encouragement.

Both of you girls are a gift and a treasure to me. Big hugs.

 

[Tanishq]

gizmo, I learned a little thing. When you are bombarded by negative thoughts, You will have to watch them. But not respond. I know this is very hard. it won't let you sit for a while. It will try to irritate you or try to force you to act upon them.

Second thing, we can try to understand what is its root. Let it go, there try to plant positive thought.

Sometimes my heart says, do opposite of that negative thought. Scary! :cautious:

 

[intothelight]

Gizmo,

Sometimes it is OK just to plain "not like" doing something, and that is perfectly OK too. There are certain tasks that I don't care for and I do them because they have to be done. I am not negative about them, I just plain old don't care for them.

For example, when I need a filling, I do not like to have the shot of Novocaine and I do not like the sound of the drill. I do it, but I don't like it.

But if I said to myself, I am not worth spending the money to go to the dentist, then that is a "negative" thought and needs to be addressed. At that point it is not about the dentist but about my own self-perception.

I hope this makes sense. If you don't like taking out the trash, then that is just a reflection of a personal preference, unless it there is something more underneath.

Deb

PS. You are so positive about getting better and it is such an inspiration!

 

[NIKI]

Hi giz, When I have something that I don't what to do like taking out the trash or having to go back upstairs for something I forgot, I try to think of it as some unexpected exercise that my body needs.

Hope that helps.:)