Have I Put My Self In Danger ??

[J_trustno1]

No no, not about my real identity. The questions I have asked on PTSD comes on google.

I don't know, I am too damn curious about reality. I watch those reality things and then I can't control my emotions on them. I constantly watch those crime related things which come on TV and then I am stressed.

 

[digger]

Okay I wouldn't worry about that too much. That happens for everyone on here if the threads are public ones. So long as you're not using the same username anywhere else and that isn't you in the photo you use, then it's highly unlikely anyone is going to connect the dots.

So far as the programs go - I understand the curious about reality thing, but you need to remind yourself that that is only a fraction of reality that you are looking at there. It is not representative of ALL of reality.[DOUBLEPOST=1399991185,1399990936][/DOUBLEPOST]I ban myself from watching scheduled tv and reading the news sometimes, and stick to videos, lovefilm etc ;)

 

[Meadowsweet]

wever, when I did this last year with real people: majority wanted to take advantage of me, use it against me, laughed at me, and even abandoned me.

Sadly, the world can be like that.

But, like digger says, if you keep your forum name to this forum only, don't use a photograph of yourself or family pet etc,then it is unlikely that anyone who doesn't already know what your trauma history is, would recognise you.

Other things that I don't talk about are, my job, what area of the country I'm in (or was in when trauma happened) or those sort of unnecessary details that could identify me. I also use a different browser for this site than I do for others, and I don't have it kept on a favourites tab. If anyone is coming round who might want to use my PC, I clear the history on it too.

I might be wrong in saying, but I thought people here were allowed one name change or something? And if it was possible to change your user name, it is worth changing it to something that is very common - Meadowsweet is a plant, and when you google it, you get lots of information about the plant and nothing about it as a username.

But beyond all the precautions that you can take, perhaps this is also an opportunity to assess what risks are real, and what aren't, as well as what risks you are willing to take, or not. For example, there are people who could pose a risk to me if they felt that I might go to the police. But I am only in danger if they know where I live. So I wouldn't talk about it here if I decided to report it, and there is nothing here that they could find me from.

In terms of my family and work colleagues, I would be devestated if they knew the details that I share here, some might even reject me or get angry with me. I've weighed up that risk, and although it could be extremely upsetting, it wouldn't put my safety in danger. So although I take precautions to keep what I write here private, it is a risk that I am willing to take in order to gain what I do from the site.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I understand your fear because you have been betrayed, I think that betrayal is worse than any abuse I have suffered. In fact there is a good post about betrayal.

Everyone has had such good advice for you.

I have found this to be the safest site I have ever been on.

I really understand why you are feeling the way you do since it has caused you so much grief.

I have received so much help and support and wisdom here. People here understand where you are coming from. It is not safe to casually talk about your issues with the outside world and I believe you have been hurt beyond belief.

I do not think you are putting yourself in danger and I think you are incredibly brave and courageous to post here.

Are you triggered badly?

I am currently in a situation with my betrayers and I am doing all in my power to stay far away from them and to protect myself.

I really like what Meadow sweet had to say.

You have been burned badly and also branded by this experience of yours. Use the wisdom inside of you and take very good care of yourself. Hugs.

 

[jmni]

In my opinion you have not done anything to release anything that could actually identify you. If someone determined that you posted these things, they would not really have anything on you. You have not done anything wrong or anything that could be used to actually damage you. So if someone were mental enough to determine that this is you, and these are your posts, and you said etc.. they would still be at fault. You haven't committed a crime and have every right to post here but stalking is a crime. If someone in your family or work place violates your privacy in that way you should consider it stalking and not tolerate it. In my opinion the people who are most likely to do something to that affect are internet creeps who send out trojans rats and most of them are not even that mental. If you want to make yourself feel better you could install a key scrambler and just use a private session in your browser.

 

[Philippa]

Yeah, I agree with jmni, you haven't said anything whilst here that anyone will ill intent could use against you even if they did manage to work out it was you.

Some fear is helpful and important, but a lot of it is paranoia that is and never will have any basis in reality. You've taken a lot of precautions to retain your identity here, and jmni gives a good suggestion about using private session in your browser or installing a key scrambler. Hyper vigilance is one aspect of ptsd that needs to be checked because it can really drive you nuts.