He Always Has Bad Timing.

[Dani]

Well, my Fiancé broke up with me today. 8 years and couples therapy and my stupid PTSD and we are currently living with his parents!!!! WTF!

He said he's not happy, with himself, us, my "anger" (which is slight) he's just kinda sensitive. His parents told me I can stay with them as long as I want, I feel like I'm in the damn Twilight Zone.

I'm speechless, in shock, trying not to freak out. He's taking work off, what a luxury, while I have to plaster a dumb smile on my face and teach teenagers that don't want to learn anyways.
He keeps apologizing, which only makes me angrier, he thinks a relationship should be easy. It's HARD work! Am I wrong? Maybe I am.

8 years. Less than my mother wasted on my crap father, but I can still hear his voice ringing in my head, the last words he ever spoke to me, 3 years ago, "Have a nice F%^&ing Life" Did my trigger happy father curse me or is my EX a selfish, neurotic, big baby????

I'm strong. I'm a survivor. Mantra Mantra Mantra... I feel defeated.

 

[SadBird]

I am so sorry this has happened to you!

Relationships are hard work. Life is hard work. Yet, not everyone grasps that reality. I have observed that some people are grounded in reality, & the rest would rather float down the river De'Nile!!! And then there are those who have lived a charmed life.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Hey,

Can't say I know for a hundred percent what you're going through, because the longest I have managed in a relationship is two years... but the thing "relationships should be easy", that sounds very familiar! Must've heard that one like six or seven times. It's horrible you have to find out that he feels that way now, eight years into your relationship. Sorry to hear it :(

I'm not sure where I would position myself in this. I agree that relationships are hard work. On the other hand, if one of (or both of) the persons involved feels they can't be happy this way, then maybe it's right to step out of it. Only that must feel like an enormous punch in the face. My last boyfriend broke up with me for this reason too, only he told me way, way earlier.

 

[rightkindofme]

I'm seven years into this relationship. I'm totally waiting for the other shoe to drop but so far we are doing ok.

I had someone dump me on Thanksgiving by telling me he had never loved me and the sex wasn't good enough to keep tolerating my crazy. Ouch.

I'm really sorry Dani. Look at this as an opportunity--now you can go find a non-whiny baby!

 

[Deleted member 1860]

"Relationships should be easy" is a cop out. Relationships of all types require hard work. I'm not saying that all you need to make a relationship work is hard work, but if you have the attitude that its easy, then I think you are a selfish person. Nothing in life worthwhile is just "fall in your lap easy".

 

[I Can Do This]

Dani - this has got to be rock bottom for you. The good news is that there is no where else to go but UP. Consider the 8 years the price of tuition to learn this valuable lesson. You now have a PhD in human relations - the time wasn't wasted at all.

 

[Dani]

Thanks guys. I wish I could show him these comments and make him get it. But you can't make someone do something they aren't even aware of. I know in my heart of hearts that it could have worked out. But alas I can't cry over spilled milk. Nor would I ever cry for him back. Not me. Thank you all for your support.