Relationship Help Please......

[Chris516]

Gingerly, That sounds a little like my online friend that I have known for ten years. She would say the most hurtful things sometimes. Even telling me multiple times that she would never speak to me ever again. But each time, it has lasted less than a week. So, like you, I won't give up on her.

 

[Runnergirl]

I'm so glad to see I'm not the only one dealing with this out there. We had a great few weeks but things have just exploded again. He has a ton of stress in his life and it's triggered him so now he's telling me he's done again and this time he means it. I'm just trying not to freak out but it's so hard. I don't want this to be done .....I love him.

 

[Gingerly]

@Runnergirl, I'm sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way; we cannot manipulate their thoughts; we cannot control their way of thinking. I didn't want my relationship to end either, but I have to accept his decision... I have no other choice. I found talking to my friends to be very helpful and of course this website helped me tremendously.

 

[Runnergirl]

@Gingerly .....I know you're right and I'm trying but god is it hard. I'm trying to give him his space and just back off and hope for the best and I guess start preparing for the worst. I'm throwing myself into work and training for my next race to get my mind off of it. I'm so glad I found this forum because hearing what others are going through and seeing some of the same behaviors helps. Thanks for the encouraging words

 

[Gingerly]

@Runnergirl, Training for a race is a great way to use that pent-up energy. I admire you for that. I have been drinking more than usual, which of course is not a good thing. I have to take control and get myself to the gym! I know it feels like the pain will never go away, but as my mother used to say, "this too shall pass".

 

[Runnergirl]

@Gingerly my running is my saving grace and keeps me sane. I ha pd an injury that side lined me the last 2 weeks and I thought I was going to lose it. Finally got out yesterday for an easy 4.5 miler and felt 100x's better. Running a,so helps me deal with his issues and helps me clear my head. We're in a weird, constant roller coaster of emotions place right now and he's dealing with some major stuff so my goal is to stay calm and not flip out.....so far so good but thank god for running....helps me when I need to just escape. Get to the gym....I can be your long distance motivator and as much as we hate to admit, mom is right....this too shall pass and what I need to remember is that no matter what I'll be ok and you will too

 

[Tinyflame]

I think this is a similarity with sufferers and suppporters, we seem to have lots of energy and anxiety. I am both (sort of), but it explains why I could always dance all night. I can also dance regardless of my emotional state. I need that (again).

I hope things improve, it likely has to do with too much stress/ anxiety, even exhaustion (which is more stress). The internal fears and thoughts. And triggers.

:hug:

 

[Gingerly]

Thanks for the encouraging and motivational words @Runnergirl, and yes, you should stay calm, there is no use in flipping out, it gets you nowhere.