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AnonymousWalrus
I have a lot of family trauma and it gets in the way of everything I do. To give kind of a backstory, when I was younger, my mom would always force me to do activities that I didn't want to do. I would always want to try new things, but not fully commit in case I didn't like it. But she would sign me up for things and then literally drag me by my arm to go when I didn't want to be there. She would emotionally manipulate me and make me feel awful for spending money on classes that I didn't want to sign up for in the first place. I feel like she always did this as a way of trying to live through me and do the things that she wanted to when she was a kid.
Fast forward to today, I would say I am pretty successful and content with where I'm at. I have a full time well paying job, two bachelor's degrees, and am now in school for a graduate degree. I like to go behind the scenes and kind of create my own stuff without fully announcing it to others, in case I change my mind about it (I change my mind a lot). For example, I just recently made a social media account for mental health, since that is what my career is in. I haven't followed anyone I know and I haven't told anyone about it. But somehow my mom and oldest sister found the social media account I made for it, and asked in front of the whole family what this new business I created was. I did not create a new business. I created a mental health page, that I was trying to do behind the scenes in private, but they were snooping and stalking me and found it. Now my whole plan is out the window and shared with my entire family because they can't mind their own business. I am incredibly mad and just want to private everything and delete everything. I am tired of being stalked by my own family and then having them take what I'm trying to do so they can be the first to announce it, and put pressure on me to do it.
So am I being overdramatic for being upset over this, or am I valid for feeling this way? They put so much pressure on me to succeed, and when I don't live up to their expectations they get upset and make themselves the victim. I contemplated doing nursing school back in 2021, but my mom found out and announced to the whole family that I was going to be a nurse. So I had to go through with it. After a semester of nursing school, I decided it wasn't for me, and she cried and said I wasted all of her money and that her feelings matter too. But I didn't ask her to pay for it, and she was the one who pressured me into it.
I just feel so upset and angry and am wondering what I should even do at this point. Am I a ungrateful brat for being upset that my family is wanting me to succeed? Or am I valid that they put all of this pressure on me and get mad when I don't live up to it? Should I delete all of my social medias so they will stop stalking me?
Fast forward to today, I would say I am pretty successful and content with where I'm at. I have a full time well paying job, two bachelor's degrees, and am now in school for a graduate degree. I like to go behind the scenes and kind of create my own stuff without fully announcing it to others, in case I change my mind about it (I change my mind a lot). For example, I just recently made a social media account for mental health, since that is what my career is in. I haven't followed anyone I know and I haven't told anyone about it. But somehow my mom and oldest sister found the social media account I made for it, and asked in front of the whole family what this new business I created was. I did not create a new business. I created a mental health page, that I was trying to do behind the scenes in private, but they were snooping and stalking me and found it. Now my whole plan is out the window and shared with my entire family because they can't mind their own business. I am incredibly mad and just want to private everything and delete everything. I am tired of being stalked by my own family and then having them take what I'm trying to do so they can be the first to announce it, and put pressure on me to do it.
So am I being overdramatic for being upset over this, or am I valid for feeling this way? They put so much pressure on me to succeed, and when I don't live up to their expectations they get upset and make themselves the victim. I contemplated doing nursing school back in 2021, but my mom found out and announced to the whole family that I was going to be a nurse. So I had to go through with it. After a semester of nursing school, I decided it wasn't for me, and she cried and said I wasted all of her money and that her feelings matter too. But I didn't ask her to pay for it, and she was the one who pressured me into it.
I just feel so upset and angry and am wondering what I should even do at this point. Am I a ungrateful brat for being upset that my family is wanting me to succeed? Or am I valid that they put all of this pressure on me and get mad when I don't live up to it? Should I delete all of my social medias so they will stop stalking me?
